10 STEPS TO RE-IGNITE THE LOST SPARK IN YOUR MARRIAGE (PART 2)

#6 Go clubbing. Remember, the loss of spark in love isn't because of too much distance in love, it's because both of you have forgotten to have fun together. So do just that! Go out, paint the town red and have fun together.

Drink together, party hard,
dance and grind against each other, share kisses and laugh out loud. Even if you feel too old to dance all night long, try to make the effort to go out to places where you and your partner can have a wild and fun time.

#7 Go on a vacation or a short getaway. The first few steps would bring both of you closer together and bond better. And now, it's time to make a bigger change. Take off on a vacation or a weekend getaway.

But don't plan something romantic just yet. Remember, there's always the awkward feeling at the back of your mind because you're doing all this not because you feel like it, but because you want to reignite the romance. So don't put too much pressure on trying to focus on romance.

Plan a fun vacation to a beach where the two of you can party all night long, meet new and exciting people together and have a fun time. When you have fun together, romance will find a way back into your lives, so stop worrying about romance just yet!

#8 Get intimate. Asking each other fun questions is a great way to open new conversations and get to know each other better. On a lazy weekend together, lie down in bed or on the couch, and ask each other a series of intimate and yet revealing questions.

Using these questions will help both of you feel a lot closer, and most importantly, it'll rekindle the sexual excitement in the relationship!

#9 Get Naughty. A happy romantic marriage needs a good dose of love and sex. So try to bring the sizzle back in your bedroom. Experiment in bed, and try a few naughty things in bed that both of you haven't tried before.

But if both of you don't feel very horny in each other's company just yet, don't force sex into the relationship. It never works. It may just lead to painful sex or a limp member.

Instead, create scenarios where you can turn your lover on instead, or talk about naughty things that turn your partner on. Sex will happen naturally!

#10 Bring romance back into your lives. Now that you've followed the first nine steps, both of you would already feel a lot more passionate and happy in your love life. And now that happy love and passionate sex have found their way back into your love life, you need to learn to keep it that way.

Don't take your partner for granted again. Woo them, serenade them, plan romantic ideas every now and then, and impress and awe them all the time. Each time you feel lazy or too bored to bring the magic back into love, just ask yourself sincerely if you're taking your lover for granted. And ask yourself if you're truly trying your best to make your lover smile.

Written by my colleague, Wale Lawal