Friday, 23 March 2018


It is not just enough to climb your wife in the middle of the night, thrust in and out of her a few times and call that love making, it has to be better than that. Lets face it, there are lots of marital issues we encounter as couples that we may not have encountered if we had bonded better as a couple. Bonding between couples takes out a lot of friction, it makes the marriage a lot more fun and sustains the marriage for as long as you desire to keep it. And one of the best ways to achieve this is through a satisfying love making session with your partner. When a woman is thoroughly satisfied with her man in bed, she stays happy and grows closer emotionally with her man, and that's how the bonding between them gets stronger. But to start with, how can you satisfy your wife sexually to create a stronger bond between both of you? Here are a few tips that can help... 

1. GO DOWN ON HER: If all else fails, this usually works. If you're having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her, with your head buried in between her thighs and spend a great deal of time there. Almost always, this would get her all fired up and ready for you.

2. TAKE TIME DURING FOREPLAY: Most men are terribly guilty of this. They just

Wednesday, 14 March 2018


It surely is not one of the easiest things to do. Moving on from finding out about your partner's infidelity can be a really big deal. Some never can move on, the experience shatters them into pieces and they watch their marriage crumble right before their very eyes. Nothing can be as painful as knowing that your lover whom you cared for the most in the world betrayed you by destroying the beautiful world both of you had built together. But the fact remains that you have got to move on, so long as you still want to keep your marriage together and alive. If you have been cheated on and you have found the strength to forgive your partner for all the heartbreak he caused you, you still need to do a few things to prevent the incident from destroying your marriage. Here are five ways we think you can prevent the messy situation from getting into you and affecting your relationship. 

1.Do an honest self appraisal of your actions: We are not saying you are to blame for what happened, but the truth is that marriage is a two person job. Could there be something you did or you didn't do that left your man with no other choice but to seek affection elsewhere? Did you often snap or yell at your man? Were you often complaining that you were to tired to fulfill your responsibilities as his woman in bed, like many Naija wives do often? Or could it be you ignored him by paying too much attention on, may be, you career, business, the children, church activities, etc?You have to sincerely ask yourself the question, where did I go wrong? That way, you can do your own part to ensure you don't let some other woman grab hold of your man again. 

2. Stop bringing up the past: This might be very difficult, but you must tell

Friday, 9 March 2018


One of the most difficult things for any woman in an unhealthy relationship/marriage to deal with is an emotionally abusive partner. It can really be devastating for any woman. In most cases, to make it even more frightening, there is usually a thin line between an emotionally abusive partner and a physically abusive one. In other words, what we're saying here is, an emotionally abusive partner, if not checked, could become both verbally and physically abusive. In truth, this is usually the foundation and beginning of most of those terrible cases that have been happening in our country lately where either the husband is beating the wife to death or the wife is ripping her man apart with a knife. Yes, women too, can be physically abusive in a relationship, particularly those with anger issues. Not a week goes by these days and you wont either in our dailies (read Punch) or on social media, how couples physically abusive each other, maiming or killing each other in the process. Here are five steps we think you can take to deal with an emotionally abusive partner, especially if the partner in question is male.

1. Being in an emotionally abusive marriage will surely have its effect on your health. The situation may drain you severely sometimes. If the conditions are still manageable and you still wish to stay in the marriage, then you must are and equip yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Mentally, you must keep reminding yourself of your unique qualities like your beauty, your talents, your areas of strength, e.g. enterprise, buying and selling unique stuffs people love, etc. Spiritually, you must be closer to God ever than before, because he is the one who can strengthen you and change your partner for the better as well. And physically, you must engage yourself in activities that will keep your mind away from the pressure you're feeling at home. You could take up exercises and join a fitness group, or even a social group that is involved in humanitarian works, anything that will keep you preoccupied and happy at thesame time.

2. You must have a strong relationship with members of your family and close friends. At this stage, when you have tried all you can to make things better and none is working, do not keep things away from your family or a few close friends. They will give you support, both emotionally and physically. They're in fact your support system at this time. 

3. Speak to marriage counselors who may help you in either bringing in

Saturday, 24 February 2018


One of the hardest things to do for most people is to say, 'sorry,' to a friend or loved one. Not everyone is ready to immediately swallow their pride and admit they've messed things up. Even when they know deep inside their hearts that they've done wrong and hurt their partner in the process, saying sorry becomes a really big issue for them, They simply do not know how to apologize and do it genuinely.But there will always come a time when you'll be forced to assess the one out of the two that you value more - your pride or your relationship. When you make a mess of your relationship, you definitely need to make things up, and one of the ways to start is by coming up with words that genuinely convey how sorry you are. Here are five sweet and simple lines you can adopt.

1. "I was wrong, I'm sorry." This is one of the most effective of the lot. It shows clearly that not only are you sorry, but you also admit you were wrong. 

2. "I'm sorry for being so insensitive." Many of us are guilty of

Sunday, 18 February 2018


This is a warning to all women, expecially married women who prefer to leave the running of their homes in the hands of a house maid, who often times not only helps in keeping the house, but also helps madam to 'keep' her husband as well. The story you're about to read broke out in my neighborhood just days ago. Nene and her husband have been married for just a couple of years. They have two little kids, a boy and a girl. Nene works in the bank while her husband is an IT specialist and works with a private company on the Island. Just a few months, Nene decided she needed a housemaid because