Sunday, 19 August 2018

WHAT HAPPENS IF I STOP LOOKING BEAUTIFUL FOR MY MAN?



Let's face it, a lot of women are guilty of this. For some reasons only they can understand, some ladies simply lose the desire to look beautiful both for themselves and their partner. They no longer pay attention to their hair, their face and even to the clothes they wear. Its as though they simply choose to take their marriage for granted and conclude they no longer have reasons to bother about going to the salon regularly looking stylish and fashionable like they used to. But the truth is that, if you were once a beautiful and stylish woman and you let all that part of you go just because you feel you're already married and do nt need to impress your man or anybody for that matter, then let us be the first to warn because there could be consequences to it. The following are what could happen when you stop looking beautiful for your man, whether you're married or not.

*Your man loses desire to come running home to you. This will certainly happen when you no longer excite your partner with your appearance. You used to excite him before you guys got engaged or married, but now that you have lost the appetite for looking good, he no longer looks forward to seeing you to appreciate your appearance anymore. When he's done with work in the office, he's not in any hurry to come running home to you because you no longer look like the woman he fell in  love with.

*He starts to appreciate other women. This is definitely going to start happening. Your man now begins to ogle at other women, appreciating what they're wearing and how stylish and beautiful they look. Before now, he probably wasn't

Wednesday, 8 August 2018

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: ARE THE WOMEN TURNING THE TABLES?




Have you been following the trend lately? Have you been as severely shocked as many others have been to find that the pendulum of domestic violence is gradually tilting towards the women? Yes, our beautiful, industrious, strong and loving naija women are slowly making a bad name for  themselves, ripping their husbands apart with knives or any other lethal object available to them almost on a monthly basis. Frightening, isn't it? But it's the truth. If you read the papers regularly and pay attention to the social  media, you'll be aware of this extremely disturbing situation. Before now, it was the women crying out for help, seeking help to get out of marriages that have gone from bad to worse in terms of abuse. But it appears now that our women are protecting themselves, fighting their own battles where help is not coming, but taking the law into their hands in the process. And the result? Frequent deaths of men brutally murdered by their once loving and adorable wives. How did we get here? It's so difficult to trace the beginning of this problem, but we can, at least, give a few help tips to women presently enduring an abusive marriage. Before you end up killing your husband, here a few suggestions.

* SPEAK OUT: You must let people. family specifically, know what's going on between you and your husband. Most women who are physically abused by their husbands on a regular basis rarely speak out. They keep the problem away from the family. A few may share it with their own family but keep it away from the husband's family for fear that he would descend heavily on them. Problem is, if things get out of hand, like it often does, and the woman strikes her husband with an object in self defense, like most of the women involved have claimed, the husband's family may claim their son has never been reported to be violent. They will insist she deliberately and cruelly murdered her husband.

*SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP: If your husband constantly beat you, then you shouldn't keep this between yourself and a few members of the family alone. You ,must reach out to professionals who can offer professional help. There are professional agencies run by state governments that currently support women who are enduring abusive marriages. They will counsel you and your partner and offer sound professional advice. You could start by asking older members of your family and your husband's family to come speak to him, that is, if you still love him. Most women stay in an abusive marriage either because of the stigma of being called a divorcee or because of their children and not because they still care about their husbands. They are always scared of losing their children because in most cases, many of these women lack the economic power to take proper care of their kids should they decide to walk away from the marriage with the kids. But whatever the reason is, it is a recipe for inviting murder into your home- if after doing the best you can and nothing works, get the hell out of that marriage so you don't end up killing or being killed by your husband!

*AVOID ARGUMENTS AND CONFRONTATIONS: While you're still in your marriage trying to

Thursday, 2 August 2018

7 REASONS WHY DATING YOUR BOSS MAY BE A BAD IDEA



Is your boss a fine man? Does he fit into your picture of a dream partner? If your answer to both questions is yes, then, you may be in trouble! Well, not really that kind of trouble, but we're saying, chances are that you may fall for your boss sooner or later, if you're not careful. This is something we have seen happen time and time again, even when you didn't plan for it. Because it is a work environment, you will always be interacting and working closely with your boss. And then you find yourself falling slowly for his charms. Before you realize what's happening between both of you, you have ended up in bed with him. It's too late to back out now...Well, we will help you retrace your steps before you fall completely for your boss. Here are seven main reasons why dating your boss may not be such a great idea.

*You will have problems drawing the line between your work and your love affair with your boss. And people in the office will start to notice. From the flirty looks you give yourself to the quick body contacts you make, people will start notice to notice and that might not be easy for you to deal with it. 

* It will be hard for you to stand up for yourself the way you would have if the man you're dating wasn't your boss. Because he's always been a man you hold in high esteem and you suddenly find yourself sharing same bed with him, it will be difficult for you to look him in the eye and disagree with him on certain issues concerning your well being or interest because he's your boss. It's going to be hard for you to see him as your equal. 

*He could make life miserable for you. Yes, believe it or not, if he's angry with you, your boss could make sure he makes your work and your life really terrible. For instance, if he thinks or suspects you're seeing someone else but doesn't have a proof yet, he could start treating you badly at work. He could ignore you when you try to talk to him even in the presence of your colleagues, or out rightly embarrass you. And if you try to fight back, you could end up with a suspension or even a termination of your appointment.

*Your colleagues in the office may think lowly of you. Once they find out for sure that you're having a tango with their boss, they

Friday, 27 July 2018

8 THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO IF YOU SUDDENLY FIND YOURSELF SINGLE



It is almost normal, while your break up is still fresh, for you to want to do things that may only end up making your case even worse. Anyone who's been there before will tell you it's not an easy road to tread when you suddenly and quite unexpectedly find yourself single. For most ladies, locking yourself up in a room and watching sad movies that would make you cry all day seem like the perfect remedy. For men, its usually about hitting the bottles and spending a lot of time at the bar, downing your pains. In the end, you are only hurting yourself more. Here are eight things you should avoid doing if yo suddenly find yourself single again.

*Don't panic. Do not start asking, who's going to love me now? Who's going to be calling me up on the phone and sending me lovely messages every minute? Will i ever love again? It is natural for these questions to come up, but you must remember, your break-up must be allowed to break you. Allow yourself experience the pain of your loss then slowly begin to recover from it all. After all, you are an adorable woman and you will surely find your own man. 

*Don't blame yourself. It takes two to make a relationship work, so blaming yourself alone for whatever happened is being unfair to yourself. And you do not need to blame your ex either, it will only make you become vengeful and resentful, which isn't what you need right now. What you need to do is move on and be happy again so the opposite sex can find you attractive.

*Spending too much time alone is unhealthy. When you do this, you only

Sunday, 22 July 2018

LOVE CAN NOT BE MISTAKEN. Please Read This...

 

When someone loves you, the signs are obvious. They do things that they will usually not do. They go out of their way to prove that they love you, they will never do anything intentionally to hurt or offend you.
Once you find yourself doubting someone's feelings for you, then it's safe to say that the love is not there. Because love can not be mistaken, it is either they love you or they do not love you. And if they love you, you will notice it clearly from their actions.
It is true that different people love or show their emotions in different ways. But that does not change the fact that, no matter how different their show of love is, you will still notice the signs and feel loved by them.

Do not hold on to someone that does not

Saturday, 21 July 2018

10 WORKING WAYS TO RECOVER QUICKLY FROM A HEARTBREAK



We know how it feels. Your relationship has come to an end and it's like your world has come to an end. Everything appears to be at a standstill for you. If the relationship only lasted for a few months or for a long term, the feeling can still be as devastating. Sometimes, you begin to wonder if you will ever be happy again, now that your sweetheart is out of your life. Don't you worry about a thing, this one too shall pass away and you will smile again. The following are 10 ways to help you get through a break-up.

*Delete all contacts. This will ensure you don't fall for the temptation of wanting to hear his voice so soon after the break -up. Chances are that you might be trying to force a comeback which might not do you any good. Forget about him and cut of all ties such as facebook, whatsapp, etc.

*Cry if you feel like it. If you think giving yourself a good cry would make you feel better, then go ahead and do so. So, don't try to hold back the tears, let it go. You will certainly feel better.

*Distract yourself. Keep your mind preoccupied. Focus your mind, thoughts and energy on things that excite you and not things that will only break your heart the more.

*Find new hobbies. Look for things that excite you and

Monday, 16 July 2018

HOW TO HELP YOUR MAN OVERCOME DEPRESSION


Let's face it, a lot of people, both men and women, are going through one form of depression or the other right now. The state of the Nigerian economy has really left many battered and bruised. And part of it's attendant effects is what we are witnessing these days with the rise of domestic violence in many homes. A lot of men, husbands, fathers, who have either lost their jobs or are stuck with an ailing company that has not paid salaries in months are currently battling with severe depression. Many of them have lost their economic power in the home, leaving the wife to take up the responsibilities they were handling. What eventually happens is that many of such men men who have either lost their jobs or searching for a better paying job become vulnerable to depression and, in some cases if they do not get the right support, suicide might be considered an option! Here are a few ways a woman can help her man overcome depression.

TALK TO HIM: This is very important, as simple as it may sound.You must talk to your man and let him know you feel his pain and that you are not going to leave him to go through this phase alone.Lift up his spirit, advice him, strengthen him, and he will appreciate you surely.

MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE: You must endeavour to be around him most of the times. He must not be left alone for too long. If you're going to go away from the house and there's no one else to stay by with him, call a neighbour to help keep an eye on him or call a member of the family who stays no too far away to come over while you're away.

ENCOURAGE HIM TO SPEAK: Most depressed people don't

Wednesday, 11 July 2018

9 POSSIBLE REASONS WHY YOUR WOMAN MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU



One of the biggest tragedies that can befall any man is to find out that the woman you call your wife has been having an affair. In all honesty, most men don't think anything of it when they cheat on their wives, as far as they're concerned, it's a man's world. So long as they have not chosen to marry that other woman as a second wife, then wifey shouldn't grumble about nothing. But when the situation is reversed and they find out their adorable wife has been rolling in the hay with another woman, then all hell is let lose! Now, why would a woman want to cheat on her man? Statistics have shown that only a small percentage of women actually cheat on their husbands, the number of cheating husbands is far greater. Yet, there still are a small chunk of women who cheat. What could be the reason(s)? Here are some factors we think could make your woman, whether you're married or not, cheat on you and defile your marriage or relationship.

*You treat her badly. If you're the type that treats your woman like she's a piece of trash and demean her at every given opportunity, making her break down emotionally, then you're certainly pushing her into the arms of another man outside.This is a situation that, if it persists for long, then your marriage or relationship is heading for the rocks.

*You abusive physically. In these days when the world is standing up against men who physically abuse their women, you can be sure you're only going to leave your woman no other choice but to seek comfort and affection elsewhere.

*You don't love her anymore and you can't hide it. At first, the woman might think

Saturday, 30 June 2018

10 REASONS WHY THE GUY YOU LOVE IS IGNORING YOU



There are several reasons why a guy could be ignoring a woman. It could be that he's doing it deliberately, to get you to desire him more, or it could be that he simply doesn't fancy you as much as you think he does. Truth is, often times, when a guy likes a woman and considers her special, he's vocal about his intentions. And he pursues it to a logical end. But if, somewhere along the way, he switches off and loses interest in you, many things could be responsible. We are going to give ten reasons why we thing a guy you like is ignoring you.

*He's lost interest. This could be the bitter truth. Perhaps, at first, he greatly fancied you and then, along the line, he found some other lady much more exciting than you.Or it could be that he simply gotten bored with you.

*Perhaps you misunderstood him. Maybe he really wasn't that crazy about you but you thought he was. And most unfortunately, you assumed he was in love with you.

*He doesn't know how to tell you to your face he doesn't like you that much. Yes, he flirted with you at the start but didn't expect things would get to this point. 

*He's probably confused about his feelings for you. He's probably scared you have fallen seriously in love with him and he's not sure if that's what he wants right now and so he wants to take it easy with you and slow things down a bit. It could be he was merely looking to have some fun with you and you, from what he sees, want something a little deeper than that. 

* Your expectations of his commitment are high. You expect him to

Monday, 25 June 2018

THE CHANGE YOU WANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP BEGINS WITH YOU




Most people make the mistake of blaming everybody but themselves for the issues they have. Things will get really better for some couples if they stop pointing fingers and start working on themselves.

Yes, there are some women who nag a lot, and there are some men who are born cheats or just do not know how to love. But most times, you must have done something wrong for that woman to nag always. Check yourself, study your wife, find out what she hates, those things you do that make her nag. If you do not pay attention and you conclude that my wife just likes to nag, then you will never find a solution to that nagging. If she hates it when you go out and drink till it's very late, why not stop it or reduce the rate at which you do it. If she doesn't like you following every hot girl on social media, liking pics of their breasts and ass, why do not you stop it for peace to reign? You continuously do the things she doesn't like, because you do not pay much attention to know that she doesn't like those things, but then you expect her to stop nagging. Instead of going out to complain to people that your wife nags too much, simply stop doing what makes her nag. But if what you are doing is something you do not see as being wrong, then explain to her why she has nothing to worry or work herself up about.

Also, that cheating husband, have you sat and thought about it, maybe it's because you are starving him of sex, you are no longer romantic like you were when he was dating you, you've let yourself go. Spice up your marriage to reduce the tendencies of cheating. But there are also some men that cheat no matter what, they cheat on women that do their best to be good wives to them, how can you expect a perfect wife when you are not a perfect husband? There's no way a woman that suspects you of cheating will

Saturday, 23 June 2018

How do I stop a guy I don't like from flirting at me?



This happens to women all the time. You find yourself having to stomach the flirtatious moves of a guy you feel absolutely nothing for. Sometimes the guy has no serious intentions of getting any meaningful relationship started but he just enjoys playing Mr. Smooth guy with babes. Sometimes he even embarrasses you in front of your friends and guys, making you look like you're his babe! That may have been no problem if you fancy him, but in this case, you no dey even feel the guy, like our babes would say. And you don't want to be rude to him. So, what do you do? Here are seven steps you can take to stop a guy you don't like from flirting with you.

  • Tell him in the hardest way possible that you don't like it when he flirts with you. When he starts telling you how cute you look and how much he desires you, cut him off straight away and letting him know you don't like him talking to you in that manner. If you speak to him that way instead of smiling approvingly at him, he'll surely get the message.
  • *Let him know there's somebody else you're crushing on and you fancy very much. And it doesn't matter if you're lying. The idea is to

Thursday, 21 June 2018

8 THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER.


Marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. Getting married, staying married and happy marriage is always the dream of most young adults. Sadly, it sometimes doesn’t come through as dreamt and wished. The role we play in achieving happy marriage cannot be over emphasized. It begins right at the beginning; Making the right choice. 
Here are 8 important things to consider when choosing whom to spend the rest of your life with as a husband or wife. 

1. Always have it at the back of your mind that the person you choose as your spouse is who you will sleep next to, eat with, gist with, confide in, trust, raise kids with, do practically everything with, for the rest of your lives. So, you have to choose someone you will not get tired of doing all those with.

2. Love should be your number one priority for choosing your spouse. Choose someone you love unconditionally, not for their looks or money. Your love for who they are should be so strong that even in difficult times when there's no money, you still love them. And if the good looks fade away over time, you will still love and need them.

3. Do not allow your family, friends or loved ones

Thursday, 14 June 2018

5 REASONS YOU SHOULDN'T CHOOSE MONEY OVER LOVE



One of the biggest dillemas women have often been confronted with is deciding who to choose from between a rich, cute looking guy they're crazy about and a not so rich but also good looking guy they're also crazy about. For different reasons you love these two guys but you're scared to make your pick for a husband. You don't want to make the wrong choice and then end up having to endure a miserable marriage for the rest of your days. And people are saying to you, 'what are you confused about? Dump the broke ass and drag Mr. Rich and handsome to the altar fast before another smart girl beats you to it.' But should money always be the major parameter in deciding who a woman should choose as her husband to be? Can money supersede love? Here are five possible issues you may have to contend with when you choose a man with loaded pockets over an average guy with tons of prospects who loves you like crazy!

OVER BLOATED EGO: Ask most ladies who have been in relationships with rich, good looking guys in the past and they'll tell you many of these guys have over bloated egos. In other words, most of these dudes think too highly of themselves. To put it bluntly, they often act like they're doing you a great deal of favour dating you because they have hordes of babes dying to replace you and be in their arms. This is why they always carry on like, 'if you mess up, I'll get another babe to replace you even before you walk through the door.' 

ALWAYS FIGHTING COMPETITION: This is a fact and you know it, with a rich and handsome guy, there is no rest for you. You will always be warding off and fighting other women in a bid to keep them away from your man for as long as you both remain together. Its a cross every woman married or involved with a rich and handsome guy has to carry. Every woman wants your man because they are attracted by the same qualities that attracted you to him.


SHOWS NO RESPECT: This is a fact too. Most men who are rich and cute very rarely

Wednesday, 6 June 2018

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: DON'T LET IT HAPPEN TO YOU. See how...



It  is happening almost everyday now. You open pages of the newspaper or you go through the news contents on your phone and the news is always the same - couples are killing each other by the minute. If a woman is not ripping her husband apart with a knife, it is a man butchering his once beloved wife, the mother of his children. How did get here? How did we become a society filled with savage couples who only know how to settle their differences with the knife? What is happening to us? How do we put an end to these demonic trend? Well, to begin with, we are not going to pretend to have the solutions to stopping this menace, but we want to say emphatically, violent partners are the most dangerous people to live with, and when things begin to get really heated in the relationship or marriage, to the point that the life of a partner is being threatened, then its time to begin to review that relationship or marriage. And our position on this issue is very clear - don't go on managing that kind of marriage, it is time to pull out of it! Here are five steps to take when confronted with a violent situation in your marriage.

DON'T DISMISS THE EARLY WARNINGS: A lot of people make this mistake. When your partner suddenly gets into a rage when you both argue, and then from occasional slaps, he graduates to turning you into his punching bag, beating you black and blue, then you must begin to realize there is danger. People don't just become violent over night, they always give out the little signals. A man that beats you to a pulp at the slightest provocation is only a knife away from stabbing you to death. Same applies to a woman who slaps her man at will and smashes things in the house in the heat of anger, she is not the sort of woman you turn your back on and go to sleep after a very intense provocation. She could be sticking a knife down your throat the very minute. Don't get emotional with situations like this, start considering a total review of your marriage.


AVOID GETTING INTO FIGHTS AND QUARRELS WITH A VIOLENT PARTNER: The moment you realize that your partner is the violent type who hits at you pretty quickly in the face of anger without giving it a thought, learn to restrain yourself from lashing out at him/her in return. Do not get confrontational with him/her. It never works. If anything, it only makes things worse. While your partner is all angered up and boiling inside, you play the mature part by taking things easy and not say equally hurtful or provocative things in return. This may lead him or her to get violent and things could get really messy from here. Getting confrontational is not the solution, the solution might just be staying away from that partner for good, if you don't want to end up a dead victim of domestic violence.


STAY AWAY FROM THE HOUSE WHEN YOU SENSE DANGER: Always be at

Saturday, 2 June 2018

7 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR MAN A 'REAL MAN' IN BED


 
Let us face it, every woman wants a man who can take her to ecstasy and back. Whether we admit it or not, especially in this part of the world (Africa) where sex is still regarded as sacred, sex plays a very pivotal role in marriage. A very healthy sex life between couples almost always guarantees a happy relationship or marriage. Sadly, not every woman is enjoying a healthy sex life. We are not talking about the category of women who are being starved of it, no, that's a story for another day. We are talking about the women whose husbands are not getting it right in bed, particularly those men who can't seem to last long. Below are a few tips that might help you get your man to last longer in bed and give you something close to what you'll call a super performance!

1. NICE AND SLOW: Tell your man to take it nice and slow while he's inside you. He shouldn't let the excitement get the better of him. While he's thrusting, he should rather go slowly, like one thrust in every three seconds. When he feels like getting close to orgasm, he can stop, hold his thrust, and then continue. 

2. EXTEND THE FOREPLAY: This one works like wonders. If your man is the type that loves to climb his woman and penetrate the moment he gets an erection, then you need to teach him how to foreplay. And for a reasonable length of time too. Don't let him mount you, ready for penetration once he's aroused, you guys need to play with each other first, touching each other in all of those places that drive you crazy. During a prolonged foreplay, he could ejaculate some of the semen that could've driven him to full orgasm during actual penetration. This could guarantee that he would delay in ejaculation during the main event.

3. AVOID ALCOHOL PRIOR TO SEX: A lot of men do not

Thursday, 24 May 2018

I am Tired of Cheaters and Liars; How Can I Start to Make Right Choices?


First, it is important to note that this is not a strange problem in the world of today. It is a common challenge among ladies; especially young and naïve ones. However, it can be avoided to a very great extent if you become more careful and do the needful. You may need a change of orientation to be able to have this problem solved.

I will advise that you start choosing men using your head and sense of reasoning and not just your heart. Don’t let love and emotions cloud your thoughts and judgment when deciding on a choice of man. If you use your sense of reasoning, it will be easier to spot the wrong man immediately, no matter how hard he tries to pretend. Sometimes, women fall in love with a liar, from the very start, even when they notice tendencies of he not been truthful, they even see signs that he might be cheating. But because they are madly in love or desperate or have gotten attracted to one thing or the other they have found in the man. They overlook all the other negative signs and keep forgiving him and accepting his flimsy excuses. 

Do not

Thursday, 17 May 2018

ARE YOU DEPRESSED AS A FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE? HERE'S HOW TO DEAL WITH THE SITUATION



If you missed my last post, then I suggest you check it out here. It's something a lot of women out there can relate to.We talked about the various issues women who are full time house wives against their wish have to contend with, sometimes without their husband having any idea what the wife is going through. The various issues mentioned are low self esteem, depression, financial dependence, boredom etc. All of these happen to the woman when she can no longer cope with just sitting at home, tidying up the house, taking care of the kids, preparing fabulous meals for her man and also,ensuring she keeps him warm through the night. While some women can be contented with this sort of routine, some are unable to live with it. It's like a mental torture that's tearing them apart, but it's difficult to simply put a stop to it now. It has to be done with caution otherwise it could degenerate into something pretty messy. So, how best can a woman deal with these issues? Here are a few tip that we think can be of help.

IRON THINGS OUT WITH YOUR MAN: This is the first step. Yes, I know, you have discussed the issue with him before and he didn't do anything about it, right? Okay, fine. But the truth is you have to continue talking to him. Don't get tired of sitting him down to let him know how much you're hurting inside, speak with him, let him know you're fed up just sitting at home and wasting away when you have the potentials to do something greater with your time.

GET BUSY: You must look for some means to engage yourself. As a full time house wife, you certainly must have a little spare time on your hands every now and then. Engage yourself. Get involved in church activities. And if that won't excite you, find women groups within your community that you can join and keep yourself busy with. You could, for instance, get involved in little NGO activities in your area. When you do not have too much time to sit at home brooding while the kids are in school, depression surely will keep away from you. Go spend time chatting with friends and see how you guys can up with ideas of projects that can get you engaged.

START A SMALL SCALE BUSINESS: This is a must. You must find a

Friday, 11 May 2018

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU INSIST YOUR WOMAN MUST BE A FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE



It is not a new situation in marriages, it has been with us for a while now. Time and time again, so many women have had to come to terms with the fact they are married to men who prefer to have them locked up inside the home, doing nothing but cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids 24 hours, everyday of the week. Even when the family can afford to pay for the services of a house help, they still have to stay in the house to coordinate things. They call them full time housewives. They are usually educated, enterprising, industrious and submissive women who love their husband and kids and would sacrifice their own happiness for the over all good of the family. Sometimes, this arrangement works out well. The wifey copes well and adapts suitably to the situation, making no whimper of a complaint. She carries on her duties as a full time housewife with utmost pride, dignity and joy. But it is not so in most cases. Much against the woman's will, hubby insists she must stay back at home to keep his home tidy, care for his children, put quality meals on the table for him and most importantly, keep him warm and happy at night. She despises the idea. She is seething with rage inside inside. She is hurt because she knows her capabilities. She knows how great she'll be as a business woman or career woman. She knows she's far better than being a full time housewife. She argues, she complains, but hubby's decision is final. What else can she do? She can't make a hue and cry of the situation. This is Africa, you are supposed to respect and be submissive to your husband. And left with no choice, she has to let it be..but only God knows how much she's hurting inside. For men who insist their wives must not work because they have enough money to take care of them, below are a few of the emotional pains the woman goes through as she struggles to cope with her full time housewife role.

LOSS OF ESTEEM: When you insist your woman must stay at home full time to fulfill her duties as your wife, much against her will, she expectedly becomes disenchanted. She becomes even more unhappy when she runs into her former school mates or colleagues who are doing so well for themselves. She listens with envy as they reel out their accomplishments to her. She has nothing to reel out. Only a beautiful, well kept home and family. Then she starts to feel inferior and loses her self esteem anytime she's with her more accomplished friends.

FINANCIAL DEPENDENCE: No woman, if she has her way, likes to be totally dependent on her husband for everything she needs. And this is exactly what happens when she's not doing business or gainfully employed as a wife. Hubby gives her money for house upkeep and a bit of pocket money, but how long can this really take her? As a woman, there are things she would desire to buy but cannot ask her husband for the money because he might not entirely approve of her buying it, especially if the item comes a little expensive. And this would hurt her. She'll reckon that if she were working, or running her own business she would not need his approval. It can be so bad sometimes that a full time housewife may need to hold on till hubby returns from the office before she can get money to buy her sanitary pads! That's nothing no man should be proud of.

SOCIAL LIFE COLLAPSES: This is to be expected. When you keep the woman full time in your house, you

Sunday, 6 May 2018

5 ROMANTIC DATES MEN SHOULD NEVER FORGET



Women are very sensitive creatures. Little things a man may consider inconsequential could be a big deal to them, especially when it comes to relationships. Its okay if, as a man, you barely remember some important dates in your life, but when it involves your woman, and you forget, my brother, you're on your own. Most women do not take it lightly when men forget their important dates. As far as they're concerned, "If I'm truly important to him, he wouldn't have forgotten!" And you know what they say about the fury of a woman, it can be better imagined than experienced. But really, seriously, one of the easiest ways to  make a woman love you and consider you very special for life is when she knows you never forget her special days. Here are five romantic dates important to your wife you must never forget.

1.HER BIRTHDAY: On no account should you forget your woman's birthday. This is simply a no, no! Every woman looks forward to this day knowing her man would most likely be the first to wish her happy birthday with romantic messages and words that would reassure her of your love for her. And of course, she expects the gifts to come too. So, how do you think she'd feel if it turns out you don't even remember? Knowing women, she'll start wondering if you still care at all. 

2. YOUR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY: This one is simply a no- go area. Don't even think about it. Forget your wedding anniversary and you incur the wrath of your woman. Most women do not find it amusing when their husbands forget their wedding anniversary, they see it as a special bond that ties them together with their beloved husband. So, if you do not want to see a mini-Third World War in your home, never forget your wedding anniversary. 

Tuesday, 1 May 2018

7 Simple Ways You Can Be a Better Husband


When you have a happy home, and a happy wife, you are certainly guaranteed of a happy life. This is a cardinal Law. But unfortunately, most men do not realise this. And the few who do realize it do not pay good enough attention to it. They not only hurt their wives consistently, they maltreat them sometimes, causing their partners unimaginable heartbreak. Deep down inside you, you know pretty well this is wrong and you cannot continue to bring the woman you love such unending misery. Below are seven ways you can improve on your relationship with your wife and be a better husband.

1. KISS HER EVERY MORNING: This is quite simple, right? But it is very effective. When you kiss her in the morning and perhaps in the night too before she goes to bed, it will mean a lot to her. And more than anything else, it will melt away all the anger inside you that you had been bottling up against him.

2. BE PROTECTIVE: One of the ways a man can easily win over the heart of a woman anytime, any day, is when she finds out that you're very protective of her. For instance, let your wife see that you shield her from members of your family who simply do not want to respect her as your wife for no just cause.Don't say this is Africa and so your mother or big Aunty can scold your wife whether rightly or wrongly, no. She is your wife, no matter the issues you have privately, you must fight for her and protect her. This will make her love and respect you more.

Thursday, 26 April 2018

12 CELEBRITY MARRIAGES THAT WILL SURE INSPIRE YOU

 
"For better or for best", that is the new wedding slogan for newly married couples. Its all good, no one prays for the 'worst', we are only saying you've gotto be very well prepared for it when and if it does rear its ugly head. Truth be told, marriage can be sweet and bitter, beautiful and ugly, but trust me, if you do well enough to get your foundation right, settle for a partner that adores you and respects you, and most importantly a partner with the fear of God, then you certainly will experience far more of marriage's sweetness and bliss than most couples would ever experience. On Teekay's blog, our hope and expectation for you is to experience unending joy and happiness in your marriage. This is why we are serving you these 12 celebrity marriages that we think will inspire you, especially if you're presently dealing with marital issues that appear to be getting the better of you. 
1.ZACK AND NGOZI ORJI:

For those who believe Nollywood marriages don't go the distance, please think again! This couple, who arguably boasts of one of nollywood's most enduring marriages, have been married for over two decades. Despite the challenges of both of them being involved in movies (Ngozi was formerly an actress) they have survived all the odds and still waxing strong. 
 2. SONI AND BETTY IRABOR:
An amazing couple. Everyone just seems to love them. When you get the chance to meet this two together, you'll be blown away by the simple fact that they make it all look so easy. Soni Irabor is a veteran broadcaster and the CEO of Inspiration FM while Betty is an author and the publisher of Genevieve magazine. Through thick and thin, Betty and Soni have stuck together for over two decades. 
3. PRINCE AND MERCY JOHNSON OKOJIE:

Wednesday, 18 April 2018

7 CLEAR SIGNS YOU CAN'T TRUST THE MAN YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH


The issue of trust has always been a recurring decimal in every relationship. At one point or the other in your relationship or marriage, there will be question marks regarding the trust you have in your man. Men are often guilty of misplacing the trust their women have for them. Women, of course are not totally clean of distrust issues, but men are most culpable. Below are seven clear signs that should tell you whether you can trust your man with your heart or not.

1. UNCLEAR EXPLANATIONS: If he suddenly starts coming home late from work almost everyday and he can't give very clear and reasonable answer why this is so, then you need to start watching him closely. Once he starts fumbling with words after failing to come take you out for dinner as promised and its not his third or fourth time, you can't continue to trust him.

2. HE IS NEVER THERE WHEN YOU NEED HIM: Once you find that each time you need him to be there for you whenever you're going through some difficult moments and he's too busy to care about your situation, and you realized he's done this many times before, then he is no longer deserving of your trust.

3. SECRETIVE WITH PHONE CALLS: If your guy has suddenly made it a habit to always

Thursday, 12 April 2018

7 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP STRONG


Long distance relationships can be extremely difficult to keep alive. In fact, sometimes, they can be extremely frustrating. Whether the couples are married or not, the strain and pain are more or less the same. Unfortunately, not many long distance relationships have ended well. Going by human nature, the longer people stay apart, the more difficult it becomes to keep the flames of their love burning. Here are 7 tips that can help you keep that long distance relationship going strong.

1. COMMUNICATE ALL THE TIME: Talk about everything that's on your mind. With long distance relationships, feelings of insecurities are bigger because you can't see or monitor each other. So you need to communicate often and get to discuss problems weighing on your mind.

2. DO VIDEO CHATS: This certainly will help. You can both agree on a day or time that you can do video chats.This is a lot stronger than just calling or texting. It allows room for face to face interaction. This makes it feel as though you guys not really far away from each other.


3. GET YOUR SEXTING ON: You can also spice up communication level by doing a lot of

Monday, 9 April 2018

6 WAYS TO COPE WHEN THE KIDS ARE COMING LATE


This is one moment every woman dreads to face. There is nothing more absolutely torturing as waiting to have your own kids years after you got ,married. It is one hellish experience that no one would wish even on their worst enemy. If there is one monster that has the capacity to tear any marriage to shreds in a matter of minutes, it is delay in conception. Some women have been lucky to have survived the harrowing experience, while some others have not. Here are five tips that we think can help you cope well and deal with the trauma that comes with waiting on the Lord for your own children.

1. STAY CLOSE TO YOUR SUPPORT GROUP: When dealing with a situation like this, you must keep close to your support group which should definitely include your husband, your mum, sisters, and hopefully, your mother-in-law. It could also include your pastor and few prayer mates.These are the people whose shoulder you're sure will always be there for you to lean on. Whenever you're feeling low in spirit and depression is starting to overwhelm you, reach anyone that is available and lean on them. It always helps.

2. MAKE YOUR HUSBAND YOUR BEST FRIEND: Your husband, at this ;point, automatically becomes the

Thursday, 5 April 2018

For Wives; Here are 10 Kind of Women Men Dislike in Bed (Part 1)

It’s always vital not to leave a bad impression when you jump in the sack with your guy. Try cutting out the following, and he’ll be your friend for life.

For most people, sex is life and life is sex. The search for sexual pleasure cannot be compromised for anything. There is a general fixation on sex and anything related to it. What it is and how it is performed have kept many people-young and old- fascinated. People everywhere are constantly trying to better their performance in bed and to give their partners the best sexual pleasure they can.
But things don’t always go according to plan, because great sex seems always to elude many people to the extent that, rather than make their partners happy, they seem always to create dissatisfaction and at times, annoyance. Both parties are to blame for this state of sordid affairs, but to be specific, attention will be focused on those things that the females do that guys just positively dislike. Gone are the days when it was generally believed that guys are the only ones who can go wrong. If you’re a girl and you’re reading this, try not to commit the following sins…

THE FEMALE LOG
During sex, some women have this annoying habit of just lying down like a log of wood. Sure, women are takers and men are givers, but doing nothing and just taking seems a bit selfish, men don’t like this. Despite the fact that the man is on top, the woman should move and flow with the rhythm. By moving, you show your man that you love to have sex with him as much as he loves to have it with you. This not only makes him happy, but it encourages him in more ways than one. If your man is the type who cares about giving you pleasure and you lie there looking like you’re dead, then it might just affect his sexual performance, because no one loves to make love to a ‘dead’ woman.

THE LIPLESS BABE
Men hate it when women don’t

Wednesday, 28 March 2018

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SEX IS MISSING IN YOUR MARRIAGE


Love, they say, makes the world go round. That is true. But, may we add that sex too makes your love go round. Think about it, what do you think could happen to your relationship, especially marriage, if sex is missing in it? How on earth do you think your marriage can survive if your sex life has literally become non-existent? Without a doubt, such marriage is merely sitting on a keg of gun powder, just like PMB's relationship with Nigerians, if care is not taken, in just a matter of time, everything will go up in smoke. But lets leave Buhari for now. Lets talk about something really important. Sex is key to every marriage. You can't trivialize it. You can't ignore it. Like we said in an earlier post, it is one of the fastest and strongest ways for couples to bond together. Dismiss sex and, trust us, you'll be doing so at your own peril...Here are few things you might have to contend with if sex is missing in your marriage.

1. YOU BARELY TALK: This is usually one of the most natural thing that will happen when, as a couple, you don't make love to each other. Your communication level grows thinner by the day. Because there's no affection going on between both of you, you can't gist together, you can't crack jokes, you can't even play with each other. And this sort of situation can only spell doom for your marriage.

2. YOU SILENTLY DESPISE EACH OTHER: This is quite an unfortunate development that you will have on your hands if sex is lacking in your marriage. You both would soon begin to despise the other. This is because, as long as you both stay away from each other sexually, you both will be imagining that your partner definitely is having his or her own sexual fill elsewhere, with somebody else, since you both haven't touched each other in a long while. And you're almost certain your partner is getting it from somebody else! Well, this may not be true, for now atleast, but it may soon be if you continue to punish each other sexually. When things get this bad between couples, then its time one or both of them come back to their senses before something terrible happens. 

3. YOU GROW APART: Naturally, if you're not bonding sexually, and you only talk to each other when its extremely important to do so, then certainly, you both would start to grow apart. You will no longer be interested in each other's lives. You don't want to know what your partner's doing in his or her career, you simply can't be bothered! That is not a good sign. But it is sure to happen when you're no longer setting the bedroom on fire. 

4. WAITING FOR EACH OTHER'S MISTAKES: All you're looking for is to get at one another. Criticize one another. Yell at one another. Because you're not bonding together anymore and you rarely play with each other, then you start looking for every small opportunity to vent your anger and frustration on each other. In a situation like this, its only when you guys decide to call for a cease fire and make up with great sex that this problem can disappear otherwise, it will just remain a permanent feature in your marriage.

5. TENSION IN THE HOME: There will constantly be tension. Lack of sex brings coldness. Both of you may want the other badly, but your ego is too big to let you say, 'darling, pls lets stop this nonsense, I want you badly.' You can't say these few simple words, so the tension continues. But you're not happy inside and you know it. Do you want things to continue this way? This choice is yours. 

6. YOUR LOVE BEGINS TO WANE: You know what they say about love and hate, that only a thing line separates them. Now, things may not have gone so terribly bad that you now hate your partner, but the truth is, you're starting to love him/her less by the day. You know its not a good thing, but you can't help it. Because you haven't been in each other's arms for a while now, you feel unloved, you feel lonely. Now, here's the bad news, you could really start to hate your partner if you let things continue this way. So, put your ego aside and do the right thing --go meet your partner in the bedroom, lock the door behind you, take of your clothes and simply say,"I can't take this anymore, sweetheart, I'm dying inside and I need now more than I ever needed you." Trust us, give this a try and the rainbow will come shining in your marriage again. Best of luck!