Sunday, 23 December 2018


Yes, this is the time of the year couples and families really get to spend some few days of holidays together. It's probably an appropriate time to recreate romance and catch up on all the beautiful moments that you guys lost in the course of the year to the crazy hustling and bustling lifestyle Nigerians generally live. And it can be a lot crazier if you happen to live in Lagos. During Xmas, traditionally, people get their loved ones gifts and they get gifts in exchange as well. Some spend heavily on family while young couples who are yet to start raising families focus on themselves. And it is also a period some few relationships can get frosty because of dashed hopes and expectations. But whatever it is, here are a few tips on how to love and support your man this Xmas!

Monday, 17 December 2018

If your HUSBAND does these 7 THINGS, then he still LOVES YOU

These days when there is so much pressure around all of us, one of the areas of our lives that suffers first is our marriage. You can tell from the increasing rate of divorce cases in Naija and of course the alarming rate of marital violence and murders that the marriage institution has come under fire lately and many have attributed it to the economic situation mostly. Some couples have been luckier. Their marriage has not been under that such pressure. Some will say its because they got it right from the foundation. Others will simply be modest enough to tell you its the grace of God. But whatever it is, we can tell you that, just in case you're still in doubt as to whether your husband still cares about you, here are seven tips that tell you your husband still loves you and values your marriage.

Monday, 10 December 2018


Lets face it, some people are really terrible at starting a new relationship. They have no idea what to say and at what time to say it. When starting a new relationship, you must learn to take time to study your partner well enough to know the right words to say to them that would not affect your new and growing relationship. There are some pretty damaging subjects you don't want to bring up in a new relationship, they are capable of destroying your new romance even before it kicks off. Here are about five of such subjects you MUST NEVER bring up.

Sunday, 2 December 2018


Whether you admit it or not, your pretty young daughter is fast growing up. And she's turning really hot and shapely too. She's in her teens and you're starting to get apprehensive about how much she's learning about her femininity and how much attention she's starting to get from the opposite sex. And, indeed, you should be apprehensive. With the sort of scary incidences we find happening around us in Naija these days, especially with rape incidences on the rise, every parent should be worried about the safety of their girl child. All sorts of predators are out there waiting to pounce on innocent girls. Only a few weeks ago, a young girl was raped to death by a man and his son. In our higher institutions lately, raping appears to have become the order of the day. As a mother and parent, you feel compelled to do something to protect your girl and get her warning signals running when she comes across men who's only intention is to defile her while pretending to be harmless and friendly. Here are few tips to help you protect your daughter and keep her away from situations that could turn really nasty for her.

Monday, 26 November 2018


It is an open secret that women can go the extra mile for you when they're in love. When a woman loves a man, she will condone from you what she ordinarily would not have tolerated from another person. This is usually one of the most obvious signals that the woman has a special affection for you. There are several things a woman can do when she's going gaga for a guy, here are seven of them.

Sunday, 18 November 2018


It can be a pretty rough and difficult relationship when you're dating a woman who's desperate for marriage. Women who, for one reason or the other, feel they ought to have settled down with a man can be quite a tricky customer to handle. Every time you're together she's thinking nothing other than how to drag you to the alter and have you slip a wedding band into her finger and this can really get on your nerves. Sadly, more often than not, a woman who's choking her man for marriage usually ends up losing her man. You have to let things take a natural course between you and your partner other wise, the relationship might go awry for you. Here are some common mistakes ladies make when they're desperate for marriage.

Sunday, 11 November 2018


A home where domestic abuse exists is surely always going to be engulfed in one form misery or the other. There is nothing as sad as seeing two people who once loved each other so very dearly suddenly turn against each other with so much bitterness, so much hatred for each other. These days, it is no longer uncommon to see couples yelling at each other with so much venom, slapping and kicking each other. And in some other extreme situations, some couples have actually taken it to the next level by killing one another. This has happened time and time again. It is a lot worrisome when one realizes that some of the domestic violence take place right in the presence of the kids. What couples do not understand is that letting go of their anger and frustrations right in front of the kids may leave on them a permanent scar that may just never heal Here are some of the effects of domestic violence on kids.

Monday, 5 November 2018

6 reasons seperate bedrooms for couples is not such a good idea


It still remains a puzzle to couples who are so into each other why any couple should opt for a separate bedroom arrangement. What this immediately tells an outsider is that the couples are clearly not in sync with each other. Or, worse still, that there could be a lot going on in the marriage that have been kept away from the knowledge of family members and that its only a matter of time that all of the suppressed issues between them would explode and come to public knowledge. Here are six reasons why having separate bedrooms as a couple may not be such a bright idea. 

Tuesday, 30 October 2018

Hurray! It's the birthday of a queen...

The Teekay Speaks team wishes a sound Happy Birthday to Torkwase Kuraun (Teekay), the Award winning Blogger ( and founder of the premier Dating Website, Join us and shout out to her on this special day...

Sunday, 28 October 2018

5 ways to know if your man still wants his ex-girlfriend back

A lot of people imagine it's only women who brood over an ex, or still retain blissful memories of their guy, that's not true. You will be surprised to know a lot of men too find it hard to let go of an ex and still cling onto a small possibility she could be theirs again. You could have a little problem of your hands if you have a man who still misses his ex and probably still wants her back. Here are 5 ways you could tell your partner still hasn't gotten over his ex-lover.

Friday, 19 October 2018


Yeah, we know it's always fun when you take out time with your friend and regale her with all the wonderful stuffs that's been happening between you and your sweetheart. You're so excited and head over heels in love with your guy you just can't wait to tell your friends about him and hear them tell you how lucky you are that you found yourself such an amazing guy. But, it might not just end there. This could breed envy amongst your friends. Some of them would wish they were in your shoes and could give anything to be in your place, even if it means stabbing you in the back and betraying you. From experience, we have found that hundreds of women have lost their relationships and marriages just because they didn't know when to keep their mouths shut. Here are five things you should refrain from telling your friend about your man, if you do not want to get into problems with her at some point, or worse still, get into problems with your relationship or marriage.

 * Don't keep telling your friend how much of a stud your man is in bed.

Sunday, 14 October 2018

8 Things That Marriage Is DEFINITELY NOT!

We all have our different perceptions of marriage is all about. The truth of the matter is that everyone is most likely to define marriage by what they have experienced from marriage. If their marriage has been blissful, then they'll tell you marriage paradise on earth. And if that marriage has been fraught with too many troubles and anguish, then they'll tell you marriage is like hell on earth on earth.Everybody with his or her story, everybody with a different song. We can tell you that truly, marriage can be all of these things, At the end of the day, what your marriage becomes is determined by what you and your partner have made of it. Below are 8 things we can authoritatively tell you that marriage is definitely NOT! 

*Marriage is not trade by barter. Marriage is not about a partner bringing plenty of money to secure his or partner's love. Using money to influence love and marriage will

Friday, 5 October 2018


Ask any man what he detests the most in a woman, and he'll tell you that, apart from a woman double dating, nagging is another thing men can't stand in a woman.It simply drives the man crazy. There is nothing more fulfilling for a man like knowing he has at home a woman who can ease his pressure and put his legs up for him on the couch and unburden his heart to. But, the reality is that, not many women can give you the sort of comfort we're talking about here. Instead, what you'll find is that a lot of women lack the capacity to put a rein on their temper and know when not to bug their man with all manner of issues that could've been better dealt with at a more appropriate time. The truth of the matter is that nagging can do your relationship/marriage no good. The following are reasons why you must put a stop to your nagging before it gets you into trouble!

*Your man will lack the enthusiasm to come running home. This is what happens when

Tuesday, 25 September 2018


When we are in a lovely relationship, we sometimes tend to over look the little signals that should tell you something is about to go wrong in your romance. Its not until you start arguing with your partner or quarreling everyday that you conclude there's problem, it is the little but important signs that you miss that ultimately culminate into these major fights and eventual break up of relationships. The key here is to notice them when they begin to show up and quickly address them before they turn into hydra headed monsters that will eventually ruin your relationship or marriage. Here are 6 key signs...

Thursday, 20 September 2018


You have been dating this absolutely perfect guy for a while now. You adore him to no end and so does he you. You have met his relatives and they've taken a liking to you. You can't wait to be his mother's daughter-in-law cos she's simply an angel, everything you've always dreamed of in a mother-in-law. Everybody says you both make a smashing couple couple together and God knows you love him like crazy. But the only problem is, he is yet to pop up the big question - he hasn't proposed to you yet So, what do you do about this? How do you get to know what's going on in his mind and if he will ever marry you? Here are seven signs you should look out for that might help you to be almost certain whether he will ever marry you or not!

Wednesday, 12 September 2018


Okay, guys, this one is for you. Have you ever wondered why women seem to be attracted to some certain guys while you, who seem to be the gentle and nice type, doesn't seem to enjoy much of female attraction? Well, we can tell you for free that its because you're basic lacking some fundamental qualities that women look out for in their man. Women are pretty peculiar in nature, they get bored easily. They need men who can always excite them and get them looking forward to being with him all the time. Lets go through the checklist below and see if you possess some of the traits highlighted. 

*A man who show her respect. Every woman wants a man that will respect her. Sadly, most men seem to think they're better than women in every way. Some practically shuts down their woman's opinion on issues and gives her no considerations when taking important decisions. We seem to believe its

Thursday, 6 September 2018


Some women naturally are insensitive. They do not stop to think what the consequences of what their action or inaction could be, they just go on and do exactly what they feel like doing, regardless whose ox is gored. For example, some women can make a habit of rejecting their man's sexual advances anytime they feel like. It could be because they are upset with their partner over an argument or because they asked for something and he obliged, or it could just be because they have too much on their minds. Whatever it is, what they tell their man all the time is, "I'm tired, I've had a hectic day!" Or , with the religious, you could hear,"honey, didn't I tell you I'm fasting?" And his may have become a regular pattern. The danger here is, while you may pretend you do not think this is a problem, it could have its consequences. You cannot continue to turn your man down in bed and not expect there could be problems. 

*He will despise you. Most men cannot stand a woman they call their own turning them down in bed for no just reason. Men hate sexual rejection, it totally shatters the man's ego. If you do not call off your no sex strike, you may force him to

Monday, 27 August 2018

How do I cope with a mother-in-law who does not like me?

Women all over the world are always wary of that first meeting with the mother of the man they plan to spend the rest of their days with. Will she like me? Will she resent me? Will she support her son's proposed plan to marry me? Will she accept me as her daughter-in-law and love like I were her own biological daughter? These and a lot more are some of the questions that always prey on the mind of women when they set out to meet their soon -to-be mother -in-law. For some, it all turns out just perfect. The mother of their fiance just takes to them and they both hit it off the moment they meet. And things get even better from then on and they all go on to live happily ever after. But some others are not so lucky. Only a few months into their marriage, they find out that their mother-in-law is nothing but a nightmare. Nothing she does ever seem right in her eyes. Its as though she hates to see her happy with her son. So, how do you possibly deal with a woman like this? Here are a few tips we think might just be of help.

Sunday, 19 August 2018


Let's face it, a lot of women are guilty of this. For some reasons only they can understand, some ladies simply lose the desire to look beautiful both for themselves and their partner. They no longer pay attention to their hair, their face and even to the clothes they wear. Its as though they simply choose to take their marriage for granted and conclude they no longer have reasons to bother about going to the salon regularly looking stylish and fashionable like they used to. But the truth is that, if you were once a beautiful and stylish woman and you let all that part of you go just because you feel you're already married and do nt need to impress your man or anybody for that matter, then let us be the first to warn because there could be consequences to it. The following are what could happen when you stop looking beautiful for your man, whether you're married or not.

*Your man loses desire to come running home to you. This will certainly happen when you no longer excite your partner with your appearance. You used to excite him before you guys got engaged or married, but now that you have lost the appetite for looking good, he no longer looks forward to seeing you to appreciate your appearance anymore. When he's done with work in the office, he's not in any hurry to come running home to you because you no longer look like the woman he fell in  love with.

*He starts to appreciate other women. This is definitely going to start happening. Your man now begins to ogle at other women, appreciating what they're wearing and how stylish and beautiful they look. Before now, he probably wasn't

Wednesday, 8 August 2018


Have you been following the trend lately? Have you been as severely shocked as many others have been to find that the pendulum of domestic violence is gradually tilting towards the women? Yes, our beautiful, industrious, strong and loving naija women are slowly making a bad name for  themselves, ripping their husbands apart with knives or any other lethal object available to them almost on a monthly basis. Frightening, isn't it? But it's the truth. If you read the papers regularly and pay attention to the social  media, you'll be aware of this extremely disturbing situation. Before now, it was the women crying out for help, seeking help to get out of marriages that have gone from bad to worse in terms of abuse. But it appears now that our women are protecting themselves, fighting their own battles where help is not coming, but taking the law into their hands in the process. And the result? Frequent deaths of men brutally murdered by their once loving and adorable wives. How did we get here? It's so difficult to trace the beginning of this problem, but we can, at least, give a few help tips to women presently enduring an abusive marriage. Before you end up killing your husband, here a few suggestions.

* SPEAK OUT: You must let people. family specifically, know what's going on between you and your husband. Most women who are physically abused by their husbands on a regular basis rarely

Thursday, 2 August 2018


Is your boss a fine man? Does he fit into your picture of a dream partner? If your answer to both questions is yes, then, you may be in trouble! Well, not really that kind of trouble, but we're saying, chances are that you may fall for your boss sooner or later, if you're not careful. This is something we have seen happen time and time again, even when you didn't plan for it. Because it is a work environment, you will always be interacting and working closely with your boss. And then you find yourself falling slowly for his charms. Before you realize what's happening between both of you, you have ended up in bed with him. It's too late to back out now...Well, we will help you retrace your steps before you fall completely for your boss. Here are seven main reasons why dating your boss may not be such a great idea.

*You will have problems drawing the line between your work and your love affair with your boss. And people in the office will start to notice. From the flirty looks you give yourself to the quick body contacts you make, people will

Friday, 27 July 2018


It is almost normal, while your break up is still fresh, for you to want to do things that may only end up making your case even worse. Anyone who's been there before will tell you it's not an easy road to tread when you suddenly and quite unexpectedly find yourself single. For most ladies, locking yourself up in a room and watching sad movies that would make you cry all day seem like the perfect remedy. For men, its usually about hitting the bottles and spending a lot of time at the bar, downing your pains. In the end, you are only hurting yourself more. Here are eight things you should avoid doing if yo suddenly find yourself single again.

*Don't panic. Do not start asking, who's going to love me now? Who's going to be calling me up on the phone and sending me lovely messages every minute? Will i ever love again? It is natural for these questions to come up, but you must remember, your break-up must be allowed to break you. Allow yourself experience the pain of your loss then slowly begin to recover from it all. After all, you are an adorable woman and you will surely find your own man. 

*Don't blame yourself. It takes two to make a relationship work, so blaming yourself alone for whatever happened is being unfair to yourself. And you do not need to blame your ex either, it will only make you become vengeful and resentful, which isn't what you need right now. What you need to do is move on and be happy again so the opposite sex can find you attractive.

*Spending too much time alone is unhealthy. When you do this, you only

Sunday, 22 July 2018



When someone loves you, the signs are obvious. They do things that they will usually not do. They go out of their way to prove that they love you, they will never do anything intentionally to hurt or offend you.
Once you find yourself doubting someone's feelings for you, then it's safe to say that the love is not there. Because love can not be mistaken, it is either they love you or they do not love you. And if they love you, you will notice it clearly from their actions.
It is true that different people love or show their emotions in different ways. But that does not change the fact that, no matter how different their show of love is, you will still notice the signs and feel loved by them.

Do not hold on to someone that does not

Saturday, 21 July 2018


We know how it feels. Your relationship has come to an end and it's like your world has come to an end. Everything appears to be at a standstill for you. If the relationship only lasted for a few months or for a long term, the feeling can still be as devastating. Sometimes, you begin to wonder if you will ever be happy again, now that your sweetheart is out of your life. Don't you worry about a thing, this one too shall pass away and you will smile again. The following are 10 ways to help you get through a break-up.

*Delete all contacts. This will ensure you don't fall for the temptation of wanting to hear his voice so soon after the break -up. Chances are that you might be trying to force a comeback which might not do you any good. Forget about him and cut of all ties such as facebook, whatsapp, etc.

*Cry if you feel like it. If you think giving yourself a good cry would make you feel better, then go ahead and do so. So, don't try to hold back the tears, let it go. You will certainly feel better.

*Distract yourself. Keep your mind preoccupied. Focus your mind, thoughts and energy on things that excite you and not things that will only break your heart the more.

*Find new hobbies. Look for things that excite you and

Monday, 16 July 2018


Let's face it, a lot of people, both men and women, are going through one form of depression or the other right now. The state of the Nigerian economy has really left many battered and bruised. And part of it's attendant effects is what we are witnessing these days with the rise of domestic violence in many homes. A lot of men, husbands, fathers, who have either lost their jobs or are stuck with an ailing company that has not paid salaries in months are currently battling with severe depression. Many of them have lost their economic power in the home, leaving the wife to take up the responsibilities they were handling. What eventually happens is that many of such men men who have either lost their jobs or searching for a better paying job become vulnerable to depression and, in some cases if they do not get the right support, suicide might be considered an option! Here are a few ways a woman can help her man overcome depression.

TALK TO HIM: This is very important, as simple as it may sound.You must talk to your man and let him know you feel his pain and that you are not going to leave him to go through this phase alone.Lift up his spirit, advice him, strengthen him, and he will appreciate you surely.

MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE: You must endeavour to be around him most of the times. He must not be left alone for too long. If you're going to go away from the house and there's no one else to stay by with him, call a neighbour to help keep an eye on him or call a member of the family who stays no too far away to come over while you're away.

ENCOURAGE HIM TO SPEAK: Most depressed people don't

Wednesday, 11 July 2018


One of the biggest tragedies that can befall any man is to find out that the woman you call your wife has been having an affair. In all honesty, most men don't think anything of it when they cheat on their wives, as far as they're concerned, it's a man's world. So long as they have not chosen to marry that other woman as a second wife, then wifey shouldn't grumble about nothing. But when the situation is reversed and they find out their adorable wife has been rolling in the hay with another woman, then all hell is let lose! Now, why would a woman want to cheat on her man? Statistics have shown that only a small percentage of women actually cheat on their husbands, the number of cheating husbands is far greater. Yet, there still are a small chunk of women who cheat. What could be the reason(s)? Here are some factors we think could make your woman, whether you're married or not, cheat on you and defile your marriage or relationship.

*You treat her badly. If you're the type that treats your woman like she's a piece of trash and demean her at every given opportunity, making her break down emotionally, then you're certainly pushing her into the arms of another man outside.This is a situation that, if it persists for long, then your marriage or relationship is heading for the rocks.

*You abusive physically. In these days when the world is standing up against men who physically abuse their women, you can be sure you're only going to leave your woman no other choice but to seek comfort and affection elsewhere.

*You don't love her anymore and you can't hide it. At first, the woman might think

Saturday, 30 June 2018


There are several reasons why a guy could be ignoring a woman. It could be that he's doing it deliberately, to get you to desire him more, or it could be that he simply doesn't fancy you as much as you think he does. Truth is, often times, when a guy likes a woman and considers her special, he's vocal about his intentions. And he pursues it to a logical end. But if, somewhere along the way, he switches off and loses interest in you, many things could be responsible. We are going to give ten reasons why we thing a guy you like is ignoring you.

*He's lost interest. This could be the bitter truth. Perhaps, at first, he greatly fancied you and then, along the line, he found some other lady much more exciting than you.Or it could be that he simply gotten bored with you.

*Perhaps you misunderstood him. Maybe he really wasn't that crazy about you but you thought he was. And most unfortunately, you assumed he was in love with you.

*He doesn't know how to tell you to your face he doesn't like you that much. Yes, he flirted with you at the start but didn't expect things would get to this point. 

*He's probably confused about his feelings for you. He's probably scared you have fallen seriously in love with him and he's not sure if that's what he wants right now and so he wants to take it easy with you and slow things down a bit. It could be he was merely looking to have some fun with you and you, from what he sees, want something a little deeper than that. 

* Your expectations of his commitment are high. You expect him to

Monday, 25 June 2018


Most people make the mistake of blaming everybody but themselves for the issues they have. Things will get really better for some couples if they stop pointing fingers and start working on themselves.

Yes, there are some women who nag a lot, and there are some men who are born cheats or just do not know how to love. But most times, you must have done something wrong for that woman to nag always. Check yourself, study your wife, find out what she hates, those things you do that make her nag. If you do not pay attention and you conclude that my wife just likes to nag, then you will never find a solution to that nagging. If she hates it when you go out and drink till it's very late, why not stop it or reduce the rate at which you do it. If she doesn't like you following every hot girl on social media, liking pics of their breasts and ass, why do not you stop it for peace to reign? You continuously do the things she doesn't like, because you do not pay much attention to know that she doesn't like those things, but then you expect her to stop nagging. Instead of going out to complain to people that your wife nags too much, simply stop doing what makes her nag. But if what you are doing is something you do not see as being wrong, then explain to her why she has nothing to worry or work herself up about.

Also, that cheating husband, have you sat and thought about it, maybe it's because you are starving him of sex, you are no longer romantic like you were when he was dating you, you've let yourself go. Spice up your marriage to reduce the tendencies of cheating. But there are also some men that cheat no matter what, they cheat on women that do their best to be good wives to them, how can you expect a perfect wife when you are not a perfect husband? There's no way a woman that suspects you of cheating will

Saturday, 23 June 2018

How do I stop a guy I don't like from flirting at me?

This happens to women all the time. You find yourself having to stomach the flirtatious moves of a guy you feel absolutely nothing for. Sometimes the guy has no serious intentions of getting any meaningful relationship started but he just enjoys playing Mr. Smooth guy with babes. Sometimes he even embarrasses you in front of your friends and guys, making you look like you're his babe! That may have been no problem if you fancy him, but in this case, you no dey even feel the guy, like our babes would say. And you don't want to be rude to him. So, what do you do? Here are seven steps you can take to stop a guy you don't like from flirting with you.

  • Tell him in the hardest way possible that you don't like it when he flirts with you. When he starts telling you how cute you look and how much he desires you, cut him off straight away and letting him know you don't like him talking to you in that manner. If you speak to him that way instead of smiling approvingly at him, he'll surely get the message.
  • *Let him know there's somebody else you're crushing on and you fancy very much. And it doesn't matter if you're lying. The idea is to

Thursday, 21 June 2018


Marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. Getting married, staying married and happy marriage is always the dream of most young adults. Sadly, it sometimes doesn’t come through as dreamt and wished. The role we play in achieving happy marriage cannot be over emphasized. It begins right at the beginning; Making the right choice. 
Here are 8 important things to consider when choosing whom to spend the rest of your life with as a husband or wife. 

1. Always have it at the back of your mind that the person you choose as your spouse is who you will sleep next to, eat with, gist with, confide in, trust, raise kids with, do practically everything with, for the rest of your lives. So, you have to choose someone you will not get tired of doing all those with.

2. Love should be your number one priority for choosing your spouse. Choose someone you love unconditionally, not for their looks or money. Your love for who they are should be so strong that even in difficult times when there's no money, you still love them. And if the good looks fade away over time, you will still love and need them.

3. Do not allow your family, friends or loved ones

Thursday, 14 June 2018


One of the biggest dillemas women have often been confronted with is deciding who to choose from between a rich, cute looking guy they're crazy about and a not so rich but also good looking guy they're also crazy about. For different reasons you love these two guys but you're scared to make your pick for a husband. You don't want to make the wrong choice and then end up having to endure a miserable marriage for the rest of your days. And people are saying to you, 'what are you confused about? Dump the broke ass and drag Mr. Rich and handsome to the altar fast before another smart girl beats you to it.' But should money always be the major parameter in deciding who a woman should choose as her husband to be? Can money supersede love? Here are five possible issues you may have to contend with when you choose a man with loaded pockets over an average guy with tons of prospects who loves you like crazy!

OVER BLOATED EGO: Ask most ladies who have been in relationships with rich, good looking guys in the past and they'll tell you many of these guys have over bloated egos. In other words, most of these dudes think too highly of themselves. To put it bluntly, they often act like they're doing you a great deal of favour dating you because they have hordes of babes dying to replace you and be in their arms. This is why they always carry on like, 'if you mess up, I'll get another babe to replace you even before you walk through the door.' 

ALWAYS FIGHTING COMPETITION: This is a fact and you know it, with a rich and handsome guy, there is no rest for you. You will always be warding off and fighting other women in a bid to keep them away from your man for as long as you both remain together. Its a cross every woman married or involved with a rich and handsome guy has to carry. Every woman wants your man because they are attracted by the same qualities that attracted you to him.

SHOWS NO RESPECT: This is a fact too. Most men who are rich and cute very rarely

Wednesday, 6 June 2018


It  is happening almost everyday now. You open pages of the newspaper or you go through the news contents on your phone and the news is always the same - couples are killing each other by the minute. If a woman is not ripping her husband apart with a knife, it is a man butchering his once beloved wife, the mother of his children. How did get here? How did we become a society filled with savage couples who only know how to settle their differences with the knife? What is happening to us? How do we put an end to these demonic trend? Well, to begin with, we are not going to pretend to have the solutions to stopping this menace, but we want to say emphatically, violent partners are the most dangerous people to live with, and when things begin to get really heated in the relationship or marriage, to the point that the life of a partner is being threatened, then its time to begin to review that relationship or marriage. And our position on this issue is very clear - don't go on managing that kind of marriage, it is time to pull out of it! Here are five steps to take when confronted with a violent situation in your marriage.

DON'T DISMISS THE EARLY WARNINGS: A lot of people make this mistake. When your partner suddenly gets into a rage when you both argue, and then from occasional slaps, he graduates to turning you into his punching bag, beating you black and blue, then you must begin to realize there is danger. People don't just become violent over night, they always give out the little signals. A man that beats you to a pulp at the slightest provocation is only a knife away from stabbing you to death. Same applies to a woman who slaps her man at will and smashes things in the house in the heat of anger, she is not the sort of woman you turn your back on and go to sleep after a very intense provocation. She could be sticking a knife down your throat the very minute. Don't get emotional with situations like this, start considering a total review of your marriage.

AVOID GETTING INTO FIGHTS AND QUARRELS WITH A VIOLENT PARTNER: The moment you realize that your partner is the violent type who hits at you pretty quickly in the face of anger without giving it a thought, learn to restrain yourself from lashing out at him/her in return. Do not get confrontational with him/her. It never works. If anything, it only makes things worse. While your partner is all angered up and boiling inside, you play the mature part by taking things easy and not say equally hurtful or provocative things in return. This may lead him or her to get violent and things could get really messy from here. Getting confrontational is not the solution, the solution might just be staying away from that partner for good, if you don't want to end up a dead victim of domestic violence.


Saturday, 2 June 2018


Let us face it, every woman wants a man who can take her to ecstasy and back. Whether we admit it or not, especially in this part of the world (Africa) where sex is still regarded as sacred, sex plays a very pivotal role in marriage. A very healthy sex life between couples almost always guarantees a happy relationship or marriage. Sadly, not every woman is enjoying a healthy sex life. We are not talking about the category of women who are being starved of it, no, that's a story for another day. We are talking about the women whose husbands are not getting it right in bed, particularly those men who can't seem to last long. Below are a few tips that might help you get your man to last longer in bed and give you something close to what you'll call a super performance!

1. NICE AND SLOW: Tell your man to take it nice and slow while he's inside you. He shouldn't let the excitement get the better of him. While he's thrusting, he should rather go slowly, like one thrust in every three seconds. When he feels like getting close to orgasm, he can stop, hold his thrust, and then continue. 

2. EXTEND THE FOREPLAY: This one works like wonders. If your man is the type that loves to climb his woman and penetrate the moment he gets an erection, then you need to teach him how to foreplay. And for a reasonable length of time too. Don't let him mount you, ready for penetration once he's aroused, you guys need to play with each other first, touching each other in all of those places that drive you crazy. During a prolonged foreplay, he could ejaculate some of the semen that could've driven him to full orgasm during actual penetration. This could guarantee that he would delay in ejaculation during the main event.

3. AVOID ALCOHOL PRIOR TO SEX: A lot of men do not

Thursday, 24 May 2018

I am Tired of Cheaters and Liars; How Can I Start to Make Right Choices?

First, it is important to note that this is not a strange problem in the world of today. It is a common challenge among ladies; especially young and naïve ones. However, it can be avoided to a very great extent if you become more careful and do the needful. You may need a change of orientation to be able to have this problem solved.

I will advise that you start choosing men using your head and sense of reasoning and not just your heart. Don’t let love and emotions cloud your thoughts and judgment when deciding on a choice of man. If you use your sense of reasoning, it will be easier to spot the wrong man immediately, no matter how hard he tries to pretend. Sometimes, women fall in love with a liar, from the very start, even when they notice tendencies of he not been truthful, they even see signs that he might be cheating. But because they are madly in love or desperate or have gotten attracted to one thing or the other they have found in the man. They overlook all the other negative signs and keep forgiving him and accepting his flimsy excuses. 

Do not

Thursday, 17 May 2018


If you missed my last post, then I suggest you check it out here. It's something a lot of women out there can relate to.We talked about the various issues women who are full time house wives against their wish have to contend with, sometimes without their husband having any idea what the wife is going through. The various issues mentioned are low self esteem, depression, financial dependence, boredom etc. All of these happen to the woman when she can no longer cope with just sitting at home, tidying up the house, taking care of the kids, preparing fabulous meals for her man and also,ensuring she keeps him warm through the night. While some women can be contented with this sort of routine, some are unable to live with it. It's like a mental torture that's tearing them apart, but it's difficult to simply put a stop to it now. It has to be done with caution otherwise it could degenerate into something pretty messy. So, how best can a woman deal with these issues? Here are a few tip that we think can be of help.

IRON THINGS OUT WITH YOUR MAN: This is the first step. Yes, I know, you have discussed the issue with him before and he didn't do anything about it, right? Okay, fine. But the truth is you have to continue talking to him. Don't get tired of sitting him down to let him know how much you're hurting inside, speak with him, let him know you're fed up just sitting at home and wasting away when you have the potentials to do something greater with your time.

GET BUSY: You must look for some means to engage yourself. As a full time house wife, you certainly must have a little spare time on your hands every now and then. Engage yourself. Get involved in church activities. And if that won't excite you, find women groups within your community that you can join and keep yourself busy with. You could, for instance, get involved in little NGO activities in your area. When you do not have too much time to sit at home brooding while the kids are in school, depression surely will keep away from you. Go spend time chatting with friends and see how you guys can up with ideas of projects that can get you engaged.

START A SMALL SCALE BUSINESS: This is a must. You must find a

Friday, 11 May 2018


It is not a new situation in marriages, it has been with us for a while now. Time and time again, so many women have had to come to terms with the fact they are married to men who prefer to have them locked up inside the home, doing nothing but cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids 24 hours, everyday of the week. Even when the family can afford to pay for the services of a house help, they still have to stay in the house to coordinate things. They call them full time housewives. They are usually educated, enterprising, industrious and submissive women who love their husband and kids and would sacrifice their own happiness for the over all good of the family. Sometimes, this arrangement works out well. The wifey copes well and adapts suitably to the situation, making no whimper of a complaint. She carries on her duties as a full time housewife with utmost pride, dignity and joy. But it is not so in most cases. Much against the woman's will, hubby insists she must stay back at home to keep his home tidy, care for his children, put quality meals on the table for him and most importantly, keep him warm and happy at night. She despises the idea. She is seething with rage inside inside. She is hurt because she knows her capabilities. She knows how great she'll be as a business woman or career woman. She knows she's far better than being a full time housewife. She argues, she complains, but hubby's decision is final. What else can she do? She can't make a hue and cry of the situation. This is Africa, you are supposed to respect and be submissive to your husband. And left with no choice, she has to let it be..but only God knows how much she's hurting inside. For men who insist their wives must not work because they have enough money to take care of them, below are a few of the emotional pains the woman goes through as she struggles to cope with her full time housewife role.

LOSS OF ESTEEM: When you insist your woman must stay at home full time to fulfill her duties as your wife, much against her will, she expectedly becomes disenchanted. She becomes even more unhappy when she runs into her former school mates or colleagues who are doing so well for themselves. She listens with envy as they reel out their accomplishments to her. She has nothing to reel out. Only a beautiful, well kept home and family. Then she starts to feel inferior and loses her self esteem anytime she's with her more accomplished friends.

FINANCIAL DEPENDENCE: No woman, if she has her way, likes to be totally dependent on her husband for everything she needs. And this is exactly what happens when she's not doing business or gainfully employed as a wife. Hubby gives her money for house upkeep and a bit of pocket money, but how long can this really take her? As a woman, there are things she would desire to buy but cannot ask her husband for the money because he might not entirely approve of her buying it, especially if the item comes a little expensive. And this would hurt her. She'll reckon that if she were working, or running her own business she would not need his approval. It can be so bad sometimes that a full time housewife may need to hold on till hubby returns from the office before she can get money to buy her sanitary pads! That's nothing no man should be proud of.

SOCIAL LIFE COLLAPSES: This is to be expected. When you keep the woman full time in your house, you