Wednesday, 18 April 2018


The issue of trust has always been a recurring decimal in every relationship. At one point or the other in your relationship or marriage, there will be question marks regarding the trust you have in your man. Men are often guilty of misplacing the trust their women have for them. Women, of course are not totally clean of distrust issues, but men are most culpable. Below are seven clear signs that should tell you whether you can trust your man with your heart or not.

1. UNCLEAR EXPLANATIONS: If he suddenly starts coming home late from work almost everyday and he can't give very clear and reasonable answer why this is so, then you need to start watching him closely. Once he starts fumbling with words after failing to come take you out for dinner as promised and its not his third or fourth time, you can't continue to trust him.

2. HE IS NEVER THERE WHEN YOU NEED HIM: Once you find that each time you need him to be there for you whenever you're going through some difficult moments and he's too busy to care about your situation, and you realized he's done this many times before, then he is no longer deserving of your trust.

3. SECRETIVE WITH PHONE CALLS: If your guy has suddenly made it a habit to always

Thursday, 12 April 2018


Long distance relationships can be extremely difficult to keep alive. In fact, sometimes, they can be extremely frustrating. Whether the couples are married or not, the strain and pain are more or less the same. Unfortunately, not many long distance relationships have ended well. Going by human nature, the longer people stay apart, the more difficult it becomes to keep the flames of their love burning. Here are 7 tips that can help you keep that long distance relationship going strong.

1. COMMUNICATE ALL THE TIME: Talk about everything that's on your mind. With long distance relationships, feelings of insecurities are bigger because you can't see or monitor each other. So you need to communicate often and get to discuss problems weighing on your mind.

2. DO VIDEO CHATS: This certainly will help. You can both agree on a day or time that you can do video chats.This is a lot stronger than just calling or texting. It allows room for face to face interaction. This makes it feel as though you guys not really far away from each other.

3. GET YOUR SEXTING ON: You can also spice up communication level by doing a lot of

Monday, 9 April 2018


This is one moment every woman dreads to face. There is nothing more absolutely torturing as waiting to have your own kids years after you got ,married. It is one hellish experience that no one would wish even on their worst enemy. If there is one monster that has the capacity to tear any marriage to shreds in a matter of minutes, it is delay in conception. Some women have been lucky to have survived the harrowing experience, while some others have not. Here are five tips that we think can help you cope well and deal with the trauma that comes with waiting on the Lord for your own children.

1. STAY CLOSE TO YOUR SUPPORT GROUP: When dealing with a situation like this, you must keep close to your support group which should definitely include your husband, your mum, sisters, and hopefully, your mother-in-law. It could also include your pastor and few prayer mates.These are the people whose shoulder you're sure will always be there for you to lean on. Whenever you're feeling low in spirit and depression is starting to overwhelm you, reach anyone that is available and lean on them. It always helps.

2. MAKE YOUR HUSBAND YOUR BEST FRIEND: Your husband, at this ;point, automatically becomes the

Thursday, 5 April 2018

For Wives; Here are 10 Kind of Women Men Dislike in Bed (Part 1)

It’s always vital not to leave a bad impression when you jump in the sack with your guy. Try cutting out the following, and he’ll be your friend for life.

For most people, sex is life and life is sex. The search for sexual pleasure cannot be compromised for anything. There is a general fixation on sex and anything related to it. What it is and how it is performed have kept many people-young and old- fascinated. People everywhere are constantly trying to better their performance in bed and to give their partners the best sexual pleasure they can.
But things don’t always go according to plan, because great sex seems always to elude many people to the extent that, rather than make their partners happy, they seem always to create dissatisfaction and at times, annoyance. Both parties are to blame for this state of sordid affairs, but to be specific, attention will be focused on those things that the females do that guys just positively dislike. Gone are the days when it was generally believed that guys are the only ones who can go wrong. If you’re a girl and you’re reading this, try not to commit the following sins…

During sex, some women have this annoying habit of just lying down like a log of wood. Sure, women are takers and men are givers, but doing nothing and just taking seems a bit selfish, men don’t like this. Despite the fact that the man is on top, the woman should move and flow with the rhythm. By moving, you show your man that you love to have sex with him as much as he loves to have it with you. This not only makes him happy, but it encourages him in more ways than one. If your man is the type who cares about giving you pleasure and you lie there looking like you’re dead, then it might just affect his sexual performance, because no one loves to make love to a ‘dead’ woman.

Men hate it when women don’t

Wednesday, 28 March 2018


Love, they say, makes the world go round. That is true. But, may we add that sex too makes your love go round. Think about it, what do you think could happen to your relationship, especially marriage, if sex is missing in it? How on earth do you think your marriage can survive if your sex life has literally become non-existent? Without a doubt, such marriage is merely sitting on a keg of gun powder, just like PMB's relationship with Nigerians, if care is not taken, in just a matter of time, everything will go up in smoke. But lets leave Buhari for now. Lets talk about something really important. Sex is key to every marriage. You can't trivialize it. You can't ignore it. Like we said in an earlier post, it is one of the fastest and strongest ways for couples to bond together. Dismiss sex and, trust us, you'll be doing so at your own peril...Here are few things you might have to contend with if sex is missing in your marriage.

1. YOU BARELY TALK: This is usually one of the most natural thing that will happen when, as a couple, you don't make love to each other. Your communication level grows thinner by the day. Because there's no affection going on between both of you, you can't gist together, you can't crack jokes, you can't even play with each other. And this sort of situation can only spell doom for your marriage.

2. YOU SILENTLY DESPISE EACH OTHER: This is quite an unfortunate development that you will have on your hands if sex is lacking in your marriage. You both would soon begin to despise the other. This is because, as long as you both stay away from each other sexually, you both will be imagining that your partner definitely is having his or her own sexual fill elsewhere, with somebody else, since you both haven't touched each other in a long while. And you're almost certain your partner is getting it from somebody else! Well, this may not be true, for now atleast, but it may soon be if you continue to punish each other sexually. When things get this bad between couples, then its time one or both of them come back to their senses before something terrible happens. 

3. YOU GROW APART: Naturally, if you're not bonding sexually, and you only talk to each other when its extremely important to do so, then certainly, you both would start to grow apart. You will no longer be interested in each other's lives. You don't want to know what your partner's doing in his or her career, you simply can't be bothered! That is not a good sign. But it is sure to happen when you're no longer setting the bedroom on fire. 

4. WAITING FOR EACH OTHER'S MISTAKES: All you're looking for is to get at one another. Criticize one another. Yell at one another. Because you're not bonding together anymore and you rarely play with each other, then you start looking for every small opportunity to vent your anger and frustration on each other. In a situation like this, its only when you guys decide to call for a cease fire and make up with great sex that this problem can disappear otherwise, it will just remain a permanent feature in your marriage.

5. TENSION IN THE HOME: There will constantly be tension. Lack of sex brings coldness. Both of you may want the other badly, but your ego is too big to let you say, 'darling, pls lets stop this nonsense, I want you badly.' You can't say these few simple words, so the tension continues. But you're not happy inside and you know it. Do you want things to continue this way? This choice is yours. 

6. YOUR LOVE BEGINS TO WANE: You know what they say about love and hate, that only a thing line separates them. Now, things may not have gone so terribly bad that you now hate your partner, but the truth is, you're starting to love him/her less by the day. You know its not a good thing, but you can't help it. Because you haven't been in each other's arms for a while now, you feel unloved, you feel lonely. Now, here's the bad news, you could really start to hate your partner if you let things continue this way. So, put your ego aside and do the right thing --go meet your partner in the bedroom, lock the door behind you, take of your clothes and simply say,"I can't take this anymore, sweetheart, I'm dying inside and I need now more than I ever needed you." Trust us, give this a try and the rainbow will come shining in your marriage again. Best of luck!

Monday, 26 March 2018

10 Things Couples MUST DO Always To Stay Happily Married

Some couples seem to have that extra something that makes their marriage work a great deal. But exactly what are those secrets of happily married couples? What do they do that others don't? How have they been able to weather marital storms? Take a close look at these ten things listed below, are they a part of your marriage? Are they prominent in your marriage bible? 

1. GO TO BED TOGETHER: Going to bed at the same time almost all of the time shows that you want to experience the closeness that can only be found in bed. My friend says she found that some of their best conversations occur with her head on her husband's shoulder lying in bed. While simply lying down together in bed, they have taken some of the most important decisions in their marriage

2. HAVE SHARED INTERESTS: Sharing your interest and ideas with your life partner is one of the constant activities of happy couples. Stay together and find things that you both enjoy doing. Take out time from your busy schedules and indulge in those things that you both enjoy doing together..Could be going to the cinemas, picnics, playing indoor games, it could even be worshipping and praising God together.

3. HOLD HANDS: Holding hands says one thing clearly, that you're still

Friday, 23 March 2018


It is not just enough to climb your wife in the middle of the night, thrust in and out of her a few times and call that love making, it has to be better than that. Lets face it, there are lots of marital issues we encounter as couples that we may not have encountered if we had bonded better as a couple. Bonding between couples takes out a lot of friction, it makes the marriage a lot more fun and sustains the marriage for as long as you desire to keep it. And one of the best ways to achieve this is through a satisfying love making session with your partner. When a woman is thoroughly satisfied with her man in bed, she stays happy and grows closer emotionally with her man, and that's how the bonding between them gets stronger. But to start with, how can you satisfy your wife sexually to create a stronger bond between both of you? Here are a few tips that can help... 

1. GO DOWN ON HER: If all else fails, this usually works. If you're having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her, with your head buried in between her thighs and spend a great deal of time there. Almost always, this would get her all fired up and ready for you.

2. TAKE TIME DURING FOREPLAY: Most men are terribly guilty of this. They just

Wednesday, 14 March 2018


It surely is not one of the easiest things to do. Moving on from finding out about your partner's infidelity can be a really big deal. Some never can move on, the experience shatters them into pieces and they watch their marriage crumble right before their very eyes. Nothing can be as painful as knowing that your lover whom you cared for the most in the world betrayed you by destroying the beautiful world both of you had built together. But the fact remains that you have got to move on, so long as you still want to keep your marriage together and alive. If you have been cheated on and you have found the strength to forgive your partner for all the heartbreak he caused you, you still need to do a few things to prevent the incident from destroying your marriage. Here are five ways we think you can prevent the messy situation from getting into you and affecting your relationship. 

1.Do an honest self appraisal of your actions: We are not saying you are to blame for what happened, but the truth is that marriage is a two person job. Could there be something you did or you didn't do that left your man with no other choice but to seek affection elsewhere? Did you often snap or yell at your man? Were you often complaining that you were to tired to fulfill your responsibilities as his woman in bed, like many Naija wives do often? Or could it be you ignored him by paying too much attention on, may be, you career, business, the children, church activities, etc?You have to sincerely ask yourself the question, where did I go wrong? That way, you can do your own part to ensure you don't let some other woman grab hold of your man again. 

2. Stop bringing up the past: This might be very difficult, but you must tell

Friday, 9 March 2018


One of the most difficult things for any woman in an unhealthy relationship/marriage to deal with is an emotionally abusive partner. It can really be devastating for any woman. In most cases, to make it even more frightening, there is usually a thin line between an emotionally abusive partner and a physically abusive one. In other words, what we're saying here is, an emotionally abusive partner, if not checked, could become both verbally and physically abusive. In truth, this is usually the foundation and beginning of most of those terrible cases that have been happening in our country lately where either the husband is beating the wife to death or the wife is ripping her man apart with a knife. Yes, women too, can be physically abusive in a relationship, particularly those with anger issues. Not a week goes by these days and you wont either in our dailies (read Punch) or on social media, how couples physically abusive each other, maiming or killing each other in the process. Here are five steps we think you can take to deal with an emotionally abusive partner, especially if the partner in question is male.

1. Being in an emotionally abusive marriage will surely have its effect on your health. The situation may drain you severely sometimes. If the conditions are still manageable and you still wish to stay in the marriage, then you must are and equip yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Mentally, you must keep reminding yourself of your unique qualities like your beauty, your talents, your areas of strength, e.g. enterprise, buying and selling unique stuffs people love, etc. Spiritually, you must be closer to God ever than before, because he is the one who can strengthen you and change your partner for the better as well. And physically, you must engage yourself in activities that will keep your mind away from the pressure you're feeling at home. You could take up exercises and join a fitness group, or even a social group that is involved in humanitarian works, anything that will keep you preoccupied and happy at thesame time.

2. You must have a strong relationship with members of your family and close friends. At this stage, when you have tried all you can to make things better and none is working, do not keep things away from your family or a few close friends. They will give you support, both emotionally and physically. They're in fact your support system at this time. 

3. Speak to marriage counselors who may help you in either bringing in

Saturday, 24 February 2018


One of the hardest things to do for most people is to say, 'sorry,' to a friend or loved one. Not everyone is ready to immediately swallow their pride and admit they've messed things up. Even when they know deep inside their hearts that they've done wrong and hurt their partner in the process, saying sorry becomes a really big issue for them, They simply do not know how to apologize and do it genuinely.But there will always come a time when you'll be forced to assess the one out of the two that you value more - your pride or your relationship. When you make a mess of your relationship, you definitely need to make things up, and one of the ways to start is by coming up with words that genuinely convey how sorry you are. Here are five sweet and simple lines you can adopt.

1. "I was wrong, I'm sorry." This is one of the most effective of the lot. It shows clearly that not only are you sorry, but you also admit you were wrong. 

2. "I'm sorry for being so insensitive." Many of us are guilty of

Sunday, 18 February 2018


This is a warning to all women, expecially married women who prefer to leave the running of their homes in the hands of a house maid, who often times not only helps in keeping the house, but also helps madam to 'keep' her husband as well. The story you're about to read broke out in my neighborhood just days ago. Nene and her husband have been married for just a couple of years. They have two little kids, a boy and a girl. Nene works in the bank while her husband is an IT specialist and works with a private company on the Island. Just a few months, Nene decided she needed a housemaid because

Wednesday, 14 February 2018

Why is it important to be in love? Here are 5 Key reasons.

Today being Valentine's day, I want to talk to you all about the importance of being in love. Love is a beautiful thing and there are a lot of benefits you can get from falling in love and being loved back. This is just to encourage those of you out there who have either given up on love or dont believe in love, to just give love another chance. That you have been hurt by someone you loved doesn't mean love is to blame, it simply means you unfortunately fell in love with someone who doesn't know how to love. There are still people out there who can love you perfectly without you begging or asking them to. Below are the few benefits of love; 

1)IT IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH;  It's medically proven that being in love and being loved back can reduce blood pressure, also a strong romantic support system protects the body from developing high levels of cortisol which is a stress hormone. This helps to protect you from various diseases including Cardiovascular diseases such as stroke. Love can also boost your immune system. E.t.c

2) LOVE INCREASES SELF-CONFIDENCE; people in healthy relationships tend to be more confident in all areas of their lives. It has been proven that being in love and being loved back by the same person reduces depression in both men and women.
Having a positive self-esteem comes from

Tuesday, 13 February 2018

VALENTINE’S DAY - 10 Facts You Must Know.

Feast of St. Valentine (February 14) or Valentine’s Day as it is popularly called is a day the CHURCH celebrates Saint Valentine. This day has been misunderstood and given several false interpretation. To many, it’s just a day of fun, to some, a day of casual sex and romance, to more a day of exchange of gifts and to others a day of deep reflection. But what should it be and what actually is it?
Here are 10 facts you must know about the very popular Valentine ’s Day.

1.      It is a Feast Day in the Church, just as the church celebrates other Saints and Martyrs of the church. Do you celebrate other Saints and Martyrs too?

2.      St. Valentine was a Priest of the Roman Catholic Church

3.      St. Valentine was persecuted and executed for performing WEDDINGS to soldiers who where forbidden to marry and also for ministering to Christians persecuted under the Roman Empire of Emperor Claudius II

Thursday, 8 February 2018


One of the biggest dilemmas a lot of women often face when dealing with men is the inability to know when a man is being truthful with his feelings and when he's not. This becomes an even bigger issue when the woman finds herself falling for a man that's already married. How can a woman know when to draw the line in her relationship with a married man? What is she supposed to believe when he tells her he loves her? Here are 5 key truths a woman must understand when another woman's husband tells her "I LOVE YOU."

1. When he tells you he loves you, he is only saying so because he wants female companionship and he has chosen you to be that companion. Not only does he want to keep seeing you, he also wants to try and get you emotionally bonded with him. You can be sure that once you've offered him all he was expecting, and he is tired of you, he certainly would move on to find himself another fresh babe that will excite him.

2.. When he tells you he loves you, he may also be telling you,...

Friday, 2 February 2018

When should you STAY or WALK AWAY from a relationship? Find out here...

Relationships are great and fun until you start to put in too much effort to make it work. Until you start having doubts and wondering if your partner really loves you. Until you no longer get happiness but bitterness and frustration from it. Yes, no relationship is always smooth and stress free, but the trouble and sad days should not be more than the exciting days. It's ok if your partner is been unromantic and difficult when they are going through tough times. But it shouldn't be a constant habit. Below are a few tips to guide you on if to hold on or to just walk away.       
1) You and your partner are making efforts to make things work. There has to be mutual attempts to fix the relationship. It can't be one sided.
2) You love him or her and you also feel loved by them but you just keep quarreling over and over about the same things. It means, you at least have finger picked the issues you have with each other, even though they are not resolved yet, there's hope because you are not just having issues about everything. Please, make sure at least there's still love existing in the relationship. If you are always fighting because you don't feel loved by your partner and they are not making efforts to show their love to you then you have no reason what so ever to hang on to them.
3) You can also hang on and try to make things work if

Thursday, 1 February 2018


One of the greatest nightmares any man could be faced with is to have as wife an unrepentant nag! It could drive a man berserk. You return home from the office after a hard day's work, and you're greeted by an intolerably nagging wife who won't let you have a moment's rest. You start to feel your home has become a hell hole, you don't know when your wife's in a good mood, you're scared she could blow hot again the next minute. Has your lovely wife changed into an irritating nag overnight? Do you sometimes feel your home has become a hell hole? Here are 5 ways to help you deal with a nagging wife'

  • When she suddenly starts to nag without reason, stay calm. Don't get angry with her. Simply draw her close to you and give her a kiss, this will douse her anger and get her mind off nagging for the moment. Then, you can get her to tell you what the problem is and you can both work it out.
  • Surprise her. Melt her heart by doing stuffs she doesn't expect. Take her out. Buy her gifts.

Sunday, 21 January 2018


Every woman strives to get their relationship going on a roller coaster, but they also do realize that the only way to possibly achieve that is to keep their guy happy. Once the man is happy, everybody in the house is happy, right? From the kids to the mum, everyone is smiling because 'Oga' is happy. But seriously, it can be a helluva job keeping a man happy in the relationship/marriage all the time. Don't get us wrong, its not that men are difficult to please, but then, just like women, they do have their own mood swings and temperament as well. Here are seven things we figure a woman must NEVER DO if she's serious about keeping her man happy all the time.

1. DISPLAYING JEALOUSY ALWAYS: Yeah, we know this one is not easy, abi? When a woman loves a guy, she can't but be jealous once in a while. No wahala, but when its too often, then wahala dey. Going through his phone, question his every move, sneering at every female you see him talking to, all of these can make a good man turn mad at you and eventually walk away if care is not taken.


Tuesday, 16 January 2018


Yes, its the start of a new year and most ladies are desperately seeking for ways to rekindle their relationships and make it even tighter. Every woman who profoundly cares about her man will surely be looking for ways to make things a whole lot better between them. What a woman wants is a man who'll love her sweetly and treat her like a woman. Unfortunately, sometimes, we don't get to enjoy any of these from the boys, so how do you go about it? Try these very simple ways to get your man happy with you and loving you more this 2018.

Compliment him. If you have not been used to complimenting your man before now, now is the time to start. Tell him he looks good when he looks good, and when he's not exactly looking dashing, still tell him he looks good all the same. Its not only ladies who love

Thursday, 11 January 2018

Stop! Watch out for these 5 warning signals before saying I do

Marriage is beautiful. Marriage can be heavenly. But this can only happen when you get it right from the start. Marriage requires utmost caution when going into it. You have to be certain you're heading into it with the right partner otherwise, you're probably in for one hell of a tortuous experience. The following a few warning signals you must watch out for before plunging into marriage with the one you call Apple of your eyes.

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: Does your partner have unrealistic expectations of you? Is she, for instance, getting married to you simply because she believes you have the prospect of hitting it big time a couple of years into your marriage? Or, is he thinking because you come from an affluent home your family would do him some huge financial favours as a son-in-law? Once you spot that these appears to be your partner's expectations, and not that she/he genuinely loves you, stop and do a rethink, marrying him/her might not be such as good idea, it will surely boomerang at some point.

EXTREME INCOMPATIBILITIES: A lot of people make the mistake of

Wednesday, 10 January 2018


Another brand new year just kicked off and, traditionally, many of us have gathered together our new year resolutions for 2018. We have listed some of those little vices we know we have got to drop and resolve to do some new stuffs that would make us look better, feel better and happier with ourselves this new year. But the question is, the resolutions you came up with last year, for how long did you manage to keep them - a day, a week, a month? This year mustn't go same way. Here are 5 ways that you can adopt to help you keep your resolutions this year. And they're sure pretty easy ways.

KEEP IT SIMPLE: A lot of times when people try to