We all have our different perceptions of marriage is all about. The truth of the matter is that everyone is most likely to define marriage by what they have experienced from marriage. If their marriage has been blissful, then they'll tell you marriage paradise on earth. And if that marriage has been fraught with too many troubles and anguish, then they'll tell you marriage is like hell on earth on earth.Everybody with his or her story, everybody with a different song. We can tell you that truly, marriage can be all of these things, At the end of the day, what your marriage becomes is determined by what you and your partner have made of it. Below are 8 things we can authoritatively tell you that marriage is definitely NOT!
*Marriage is not trade by barter. Marriage is not about a partner bringing plenty of money to secure his or partner's love. Using money to influence love and marriage will not work.
*Marriage is not about the certificate. For those who think marriage is all about getting a marriage certificate to tie down your partner to his or her marital obligations even if the love is no longer there are making a big mistake. When the chips are down, even your marriage certificate will no be able to help you.
*Marriage is not 50-50. It is going to be very difficult to expect your marriage to be 50-50 in terms of love and commitment. That will be very difficult. One of you has to be willing and ready to sacrifice more to make the marriage work and last. It cannot be 50-50, you or your partner must be ready to give a little bit more for it to survive the test of time.
*Marriage is not getting what you want all the time. In marriage, you can't possibly have your way all the time. Sometimes you get what you want, sometimes you don't. If you expect to have your way every single time, then there could be problem.
*Marriage is not about receiving alone. You must be ready and willing to put into marriage before you can expect to receive from it. If all you want to do is collect from marriage, in terms of material stuffs, happiness, or peace of mind, then you must also be ready and willing to put a lot into it yourself, and that starts with sacrifice, commitment and endurance.
*Marriage is not dictatorship. For men, especially, who see their women as just another beautiful part of the furniture in the home, and so would not show their wife any respect nor accommodate her opinion and views, you have got it all twisted. Marriage is nothing like that. Change your ways before you lose the only woman who can truly love you.
*Marriage is not a mere children's factory. And this goes for both parties. We know a lot of people have gone into marriage just because of their desperate need to have their own children. And they believe the only way to achieving that is by getting married. Well, yes, technically, you are right, but how about all the other components that go with it? Making babies out of marriage does not necessarily guarantee happiness in that marriage, there's a whole lot more that you need to guarantee that.
* Marriage is not slavery. For those who have turned their partners into slaves in the marriage, we ask you to pause for a moment and ask yourself certain questions: can this truly be what marriage is all about? Am I being fair to my partner by subjecting him/her to unfavourable conditions in the home? Is it right to traumatize my partner so much that she/he is now extremely scared of me? This is not right, marriage is definitely not slavery.
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