Lets face it, some people are really terrible at starting a new relationship. They have no idea what to say and at what time to say it. When starting a new relationship, you must learn to take time to study your partner well enough to know the right words to say to them that would not affect your new and growing relationship. There are some pretty damaging subjects you don't want to bring up in a new relationship, they are capable of destroying your new romance even before it kicks off. Here are about five of such subjects you MUST NEVER bring up.
*For starters, you must never start reeling out the long list of your exes to your new partner. Yes, we know you've been there and done that, but must you roll out the drums because of that before your new partner? Yes, its okay to talk about your immediate past ex, your partner might want to know why you guys broke up. But that is where it should end. Except you want to scare your new lover away with your long list of sexual partners.
*Another no-go area is the subject of marriage. You must never start discussing the possibility of marriage with your partner just on your first or second date, if you still want to see the guy again. Marriage is always a sensitive sensitive subject that requires the perfect timing before bringing it up, otherwise you might just send the guy scrambling through the window to make his escape.
*Another way to get your partner , usually the guy in this case, scrambling through the window for escape, is when you start asking him how many kids he thinks he could have with you! That is also a very touchy subject. The guy barely knows you, and so you think he'll start seeing you as the mother of his unborn kids immediately? Hello, sister, e no dey work like dat o. It's one step at a time. Get him to really like and possibly even love you first, then you can begin to think of being the mother of his kids.
*You want both of you to start living together right away? Isn't that way too early? Being live-in lovers doesn't really work for everybody. And not everyone likes the idea though. It could also make you come across as being desperate by asking your partner that you both become live-in lovers and you could very well scare him/her away.
*Never try to find out how much your partner earns on your first couple of dates together, it might not be such a great idea. This could only portray you as being materialistic and may make your partner wary of going any further with you. They could think you would be a handful to cope with financially and so might be forced to to begin to review the whole relationship going on between both of you.
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