WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SEX IS MISSING IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Love, they say, makes the world go round. That is true. But, may we add that sex too makes your love go round. Think about it, what do you think could happen to your relationship, especially marriage, if sex is missing in it? How on earth do you think your marriage can survive if your sex life has literally become non-existent? Without a doubt, such marriage is merely sitting on a keg of gun powder, just like PMB's relationship with Nigerians, if care is not taken, in just a matter of time, everything will go up in smoke. But lets leave Buhari for now. Lets talk about something really important. Sex is key to every marriage. You can't trivialize it. You can't ignore it. Like we said in an earlier post, it is one of the fastest and strongest ways for couples to bond together. Dismiss sex and, trust us, you'll be doing so at your own peril...Here are few things you might have to contend with if sex is missing in your marriage.

1. YOU BARELY TALK: This is usually one of the most natural thing that will happen when, as a couple, you don't make love to each other. Your communication level grows thinner by the day. Because there's no affection going on between both of you, you can't gist together, you can't crack jokes, you can't even play with each other. And this sort of situation can only spell doom for your marriage.

2. YOU SILENTLY DESPISE EACH OTHER: This is quite an unfortunate development that you will have on your hands if sex is lacking in your marriage. You both would soon begin to despise the other. This is because, as long as you both stay away from each other sexually, you both will be imagining that your partner definitely is having his or her own sexual fill elsewhere, with somebody else, since you both haven't touched each other in a long while. And you're almost certain your partner is getting it from somebody else! Well, this may not be true, for now atleast, but it may soon be if you continue to punish each other sexually. When things get this bad between couples, then its time one or both of them come back to their senses before something terrible happens. 

3. YOU GROW APART: Naturally, if you're not bonding sexually, and you only talk to each other when its extremely important to do so, then certainly, you both would start to grow apart. You will no longer be interested in each other's lives. You don't want to know what your partner's doing in his or her career, you simply can't be bothered! That is not a good sign. But it is sure to happen when you're no longer setting the bedroom on fire. 

4. WAITING FOR EACH OTHER'S MISTAKES: All you're looking for is to get at one another. Criticize one another. Yell at one another. Because you're not bonding together anymore and you rarely play with each other, then you start looking for every small opportunity to vent your anger and frustration on each other. In a situation like this, its only when you guys decide to call for a cease fire and make up with great sex that this problem can disappear otherwise, it will just remain a permanent feature in your marriage.

5. TENSION IN THE HOME: There will constantly be tension. Lack of sex brings coldness. Both of you may want the other badly, but your ego is too big to let you say, 'darling, pls lets stop this nonsense, I want you badly.' You can't say these few simple words, so the tension continues. But you're not happy inside and you know it. Do you want things to continue this way? This choice is yours. 

6. YOUR LOVE BEGINS TO WANE: You know what they say about love and hate, that only a thing line separates them. Now, things may not have gone so terribly bad that you now hate your partner, but the truth is, you're starting to love him/her less by the day. You know its not a good thing, but you can't help it. Because you haven't been in each other's arms for a while now, you feel unloved, you feel lonely. Now, here's the bad news, you could really start to hate your partner if you let things continue this way. So, put your ego aside and do the right thing --go meet your partner in the bedroom, lock the door behind you, take of your clothes and simply say,"I can't take this anymore, sweetheart, I'm dying inside and I need now more than I ever needed you." Trust us, give this a try and the rainbow will come shining in your marriage again. Best of luck!

10 Things Couples MUST DO Always To Stay Happily Married

 

 

Some couples seem to have that extra something that makes their marriage work a great deal. But exactly what are those secrets of happily married couples? What do they do that others don't? How have they been able to weather marital storms? Take a close look at these ten things listed below, are they a part of your marriage? Are they prominent in your marriage bible? 

1. GO TO BED TOGETHER: Going to bed at the same time almost all of the time shows that you want to experience the closeness that can only be found in bed. My friend says she found that some of their best conversations occur with her head on her husband's shoulder lying in bed. While simply lying down together in bed, they have taken some of the most important decisions in their marriage

2. HAVE SHARED INTERESTS: Sharing your interest and ideas with your life partner is one of the constant activities of happy couples. Stay together and find things that you both enjoy doing. Take out time from your busy schedules and indulge in those things that you both enjoy doing together..Could be going to the cinemas, picnics, playing indoor games, it could even be worshipping and praising God together.

3. HOLD HANDS: Holding hands says one thing clearly, that you're still

HOW TO BOND WITH YOUR WIFE BY SATISFYING HER SEXUALLY

It is not just enough to climb your wife in the middle of the night, thrust in and out of her a few times and call that love making, it has to be better than that. Lets face it, there are lots of marital issues we encounter as couples that we may not have encountered if we had bonded better as a couple. Bonding between couples takes out a lot of friction, it makes the marriage a lot more fun and sustains the marriage for as long as you desire to keep it. And one of the best ways to achieve this is through a satisfying love making session with your partner. When a woman is thoroughly satisfied with her man in bed, she stays happy and grows closer emotionally with her man, and that's how the bonding between them gets stronger. But to start with, how can you satisfy your wife sexually to create a stronger bond between both of you? Here are a few tips that can help... 

1. GO DOWN ON HER: If all else fails, this usually works. If you're having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her, with your head buried in between her thighs and spend a great deal of time there. Almost always, this would get her all fired up and ready for you.

2. TAKE TIME DURING FOREPLAY: Most men are terribly guilty of this. They just

INFIDELITY: 5 WAYS TO PREVENT A MESSY OLD AFFAIR FROM DESTROYING YOUR MARRIAGE

It surely is not one of the easiest things to do. Moving on from finding out about your partner's infidelity can be a really big deal. Some never can move on, the experience shatters them into pieces and they watch their marriage crumble right before their very eyes. Nothing can be as painful as knowing that your lover whom you cared for the most in the world betrayed you by destroying the beautiful world both of you had built together. But the fact remains that you have got to move on, so long as you still want to keep your marriage together and alive. If you have been cheated on and you have found the strength to forgive your partner for all the heartbreak he caused you, you still need to do a few things to prevent the incident from destroying your marriage. Here are five ways we think you can prevent the messy situation from getting into you and affecting your relationship. 

1.Do an honest self appraisal of your actions: We are not saying you are to blame for what happened, but the truth is that marriage is a two person job. Could there be something you did or you didn't do that left your man with no other choice but to seek affection elsewhere? Did you often snap or yell at your man? Were you often complaining that you were to tired to fulfill your responsibilities as his woman in bed, like many Naija wives do often? Or could it be you ignored him by paying too much attention on, may be, you career, business, the children, church activities, etc?You have to sincerely ask yourself the question, where did I go wrong? That way, you can do your own part to ensure you don't let some other woman grab hold of your man again. 

2. Stop bringing up the past: This might be very difficult, but you must tell

HOW TO DEAL WITH AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE PARTNER

One of the most difficult things for any woman in an unhealthy relationship/marriage to deal with is an emotionally abusive partner. It can really be devastating for any woman. In most cases, to make it even more frightening, there is usually a thin line between an emotionally abusive partner and a physically abusive one. In other words, what we're saying here is, an emotionally abusive partner, if not checked, could become both verbally and physically abusive. In truth, this is usually the foundation and beginning of most of those terrible cases that have been happening in our country lately where either the husband is beating the wife to death or the wife is ripping her man apart with a knife. Yes, women too, can be physically abusive in a relationship, particularly those with anger issues. Not a week goes by these days and you wont either in our dailies (read Punch) or on social media, how couples physically abusive each other, maiming or killing each other in the process. Here are five steps we think you can take to deal with an emotionally abusive partner, especially if the partner in question is male.

1. Being in an emotionally abusive marriage will surely have its effect on your health. The situation may drain you severely sometimes. If the conditions are still manageable and you still wish to stay in the marriage, then you must are and equip yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Mentally, you must keep reminding yourself of your unique qualities like your beauty, your talents, your areas of strength, e.g. enterprise, buying and selling unique stuffs people love, etc. Spiritually, you must be closer to God ever than before, because he is the one who can strengthen you and change your partner for the better as well. And physically, you must engage yourself in activities that will keep your mind away from the pressure you're feeling at home. You could take up exercises and join a fitness group, or even a social group that is involved in humanitarian works, anything that will keep you preoccupied and happy at thesame time.

2. You must have a strong relationship with members of your family and close friends. At this stage, when you have tried all you can to make things better and none is working, do not keep things away from your family or a few close friends. They will give you support, both emotionally and physically. They're in fact your support system at this time. 

3. Speak to marriage counselors who may help you in either bringing in