WHO AM I WITHOUT A PEACEFUL FAMILY?

My advice to all the married men out there:

Love your wife and be gentle with her. When you treat her with the greatest respect, she'll treat you like a King. She has sacrificed a lot to be the best wife and mother, so appreciate her efforts, overlook any of her shortcomings and listen to her problems with attention and care.

And no matter how much you may disagree with her actions or behavior, advise her with wisdom and soft words...but NEVER under any circumstances shall you physically or emotionally ABUSE her.

My advice to all the beautiful married women out there :

Express your love to your husband and never disrespect him. Care for him after a long day's work and give him space if he needs it. Be that best friend who is always there for him and show him that you care. He is the supporter of your family so appreciate his hard work and NEVER belittle his efforts. Let the small issues pass and don't ignite the argument. And no matter how much tension can escalate between you two, try to be the first to calm the situation down...but NEVER under any circustances tell him that you had never seen any good from him.
May the peace of the Lord be with all marriages.

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Is Adultery Unforgivable?

ADULTERY IS THE FASTEST KILLER OF MARRIAGES: HERE ARE STEPS TO AVOIDING IT

There are 100 Bible verses against adultery! Some of these biblical verses include Proverbs 6:32 and Hebrews 13: 14. For God to renounce adultery a record hundred times, tells us how much God is offended by this abominable act. The Quran 4:15, 24:2 and 24:6-9 also speaks against the perversion of adultery.  

Despite these strong admonishing from the Holy Books about the horrifying sin of adultery, many husbands and wives have continued to be adulterous, including even priests and pastors!

Why are we still toying with these worst of sins? Is it a lack of knowledge or weakness of spirit and body? A lot of cases of adultery have proven that many adulterers from Christians to Hinduists are people of knowledge, learning and great faith. So why then do they fall in the trap of the seductress or charmer?

The answer could only be a lack of discipline. But to avoid these deadly trap of adultery, hear are a few steps to begin with:

1: Note that whatever bodily attributes every Woman or Man has, your spouse has or can develop same attributes with your support.

2: Kill any sexual thoughts deviating from your spouse or they will gradually ruin and even  kill . Sexual immorality develops from the mind and graduates in the bedroom.

3. Always have adequate sex with your wife or husband so as to gradually develop a fondness for them. It could save your life and secure your destiny.

4. Always be in the company of righteous and morally-upright people to switch off from lust and adultery.

5. Be open with your spouse on your sexual life for improvement. Every spouse has the innate capacity to satisfy sexually.

6. Read the Bible constantly. This healthy exercise will fill you with quality thoughts and sway you from lustful thoughts.

7. Never make a member of the opposite sex a confidante or someone with whom you share intimate matters.

8: Never be with a member of the opposite sex at a time your spouse doesn't know you are there.

9: Never speak evil about your spouse in the presence of anyone. They will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by luring you into sexually immorality.

 10. Avoid websites with adultery/pornography content.

11: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIRS thrive in secrecy.

12: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to.

13: Avoid gifts and favours from the opposite sex. They may ask for sex in return.

14: Develop a positive attitude towards your spouse. Consider your spouse the best. That is the attitude that sets marriages apart from illegal relationships.

15: Invest all your sexual energy and resources in your spouse and reap the results of genuine satisfaction and holiness.

16: fill your heart with the word of God always this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

17: Adultery ultimately brings shame, pain, loss of integrity, poverty, sickness and can ruin not just your marriage, but family, wife/husband, children, friends and above all it greatly offends GOD.

18: Pray regularly for your Spouse and your marriage and you will not only harvest sexual satisfaction, but heavenly prosperity.

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He is having an affair

Where did I go wrong?
Did I cause this?
Often times this is the question we ask when we find ourselves in situations where our spouse or partner is having an affair.
Sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint where someone’s compulsive sexual activity originates. These could be attributed to a whole lot of factors such as family upbringing, environmental and societal classes, mid-life crisis to mention but a few, which often lead to sexual betrayal in marriage. The notion most people have that by getting married it will help them to stop or control their compulsive sexual behavior once and for all (if actually people think so) is all fallacies. You can not stop an addiction by the snap of a finger and as such these problems are not so easily overcome, however, this behavior usually re-emerge in the marriage.
Affairs in marriages or relationships are the end result of so many things. If you are wondering whether its your fault that led to your spouse’s behavior, be rest assured the answer is MAYBE OR MAYBE NOT. All marriages have deficits and problems, but not all marriages experience affairs as a result of these problems. The good news is, once the behavior is identified and the person is in acceptance and acknowledges that it is actually a problem, (know that if the person doesn't see it as a problem, it can never be resolved) then you can work towards resolving it. There are numerous channels and healthy ways of addressing the issues in your relationship.. (Watch out for the sequel "how to reduce and stop unfaithfulness in marriage/relationship.")
Caught my husband/wife having an affair", "how to overcome unfaithfulness".

This is the role of couples in marriage

Husbands are the governors of the the house and wives are the deputy governor/only Lady (not first lady) of the house. As a husband, you are to support your wives in everything, love her as Christ loved the church. One thing men don't understand is communication is paramount in a relationship before, during and after marriage. Your wife should be your best friend, confidant, second in command. This is because if you don't communicate with your wife during the early stage of marriage or she's not your best friend, when the kids have all grown up and left, you will be a lonely soul and become depressed. Your wife would rather prefer to be with the kids doing Omugwo than come back to the house to be with you. You should help her in the kitchen, little chores around the house, spoil her once in a while, appreciate her, flatter her with kind words, make her feel and know she is important to you. God made her a helper not a slave. Most men dont take advice from their wives, they claim to know it all and will want to be Lords of the house but they often forget that Ladies have sixth sense and you making your wife your best friend, she will always look out for you. She's got your back. Men most often than not think straight, but ladies always try to think outside the box. Men trust your wives, love them, treat them with respect and tenderness just like Christ did to the church. Wives- you are the helper to your husbands, they say behind every successful man there's a woman. Wives obey your husbands. Christ has made them the head of the house just like He(CHRIST) is the head of the church. There can't be two kings in one kingdom. You are the helper and not the head. Most women like to claim equal rights with their husbands. This often leads to problems at home. Women be submissive to your husbands in like manner as Christ has shown. Support your husbands, share his passions, dreams, be his listening ears, confidant, treat him with respect, love him, appreciate him, flatter him. A man who feels loved by his wife will always do right be her. Wives don't be shy to ask for help from your husbands make them feel useful around the house. A man likes to prove his macho so even if its little task that you can do, call him and ask for help, let him do things, don't push him away into another ladies waiting arms. It's funny but men are just grown babies that likes to be treated as one. Communication is paramount in relationships, don't be a nagging wife learn to talk things over, instead of nagging, dialogue with him. Be willing to say sorry. (Often times when we apologise, it doesn't mean we are wrong and the other person is right: It means we value our relationship more than our ego). Husband and wife treat each other with love, respect and trust.
May the peace of the Lord be in our marriages.

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Spice up your marriage by doing the usually things like!

One of the best ways to spice up your relationship is to crank up the sensuality. Hot sex is great (in sooooo many ways!), but sensuality has benefits as well.
One trick of the marriage trade

is to call in sick to work and spend the day together – naked.
Really!
I can strip for my Husband's pleasure. Been a Godly house is different from been a holier than thy wife that pushers her husband out to the worldly intruders because of her attitude towards him..

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Army offers N500K reward to whistleblowers over info on suicide bombers, gives contact numbers

The Nigerian army, Tuesday, offered some whistle-blowers a whopping sum of N500,000 as reward for providing information about suicide bombers.



The army offered the reward to the whistle-blowers for providing the information that led to the killing of the third suicide bomber in the University of Maiduguri blast that killed a professor of veterinary medicine and four others.

Nigerian Army to give N500 000 cash reward for information on suicide bombers

The army also gave out phone numbers to be contacted by whistleblowers when such pieces of information are available.
The numbers are:

Theatre Commander, Operation Lafiya Dole, Maiduguri- 09064823221

Commander, 7 Division GarrisonGarrison
Maiduguri-08022375305

General Officer Commanding 7 Division Maiduguri-09078599985.

Others are: Commander, 28 Brigade, Mubi-08065504576

Commander 26 Brigade, Gwoza-+234 809 721 1700 (WhatsApp),

Director, Army Public Relations FCT-07080217992 andand

Commander, 7 Div Military Intelligence Brigade Maiduguri-09021668444

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How to Teach Your Child About Healthy Marriage

How To Teach Your Children About Healthy:


Marriage Researchers have learned many things about the positive effects of marriage on adults. For example, they live longer, healthier and wealthier lives. Kids in homes with their married biological parents generally have a higher standard of living, do better in school, have fewer behavioral problems, and are less likely to be abused when compared to kids living in a different family structure. This doesn’t mean kids from single-parent homes won’t have good lives, or that kids from married homes won’t have problems, but it is less likely to happen to kids living with parents who are in a healthy marriage. Learning to have a healthy marriage starts when children are observing their parent’s (or other relative’s) relationships.

Parents talk to their kids about all kinds of difficult topics. There are commercials about our kids’ brains on drugs, the importance of reading to our kids, and even about staying in school. But we rarely see or hear anything about one of the most important building blocks in our society: healthy marriage. Marriage is something many of us take for granted, but don’t really understand. We can give our children the tools to enjoy healthy and happy relationships.
Special thanks to Susan Blumberg, Ph.D.

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Dabiri-Erewa: to US: You can’t give us $1bn aid and keep $1bn of our stolen wealth

Itse Sagay, chairman of the Presidential Advisory Committee against Corruption (PACAC), on Thursday said Nigeria could lose $550m recovered from the Abacha family to the United States.

Speaking on Thursday at a news conference on asset recovery, organised by PACAC and the office of the senior special assistant to the president on foreign affairs and the Diaspora, Sagay said Nigeria had forfeited $480m to the US in 2014.

Also speaking at the parley, Abike Dabiri-Erewa, senior special assistant to the president on foreign affairs and diaspora, decried a situation where, for example, US gives Nigeria an aid of $1bn but keeps $1bn of funds recovered from Nigeria.

“Nigeria presently stands to lose another $550 million recovered from the Abacha family to the U.S., contrary to the earlier promise by the US to return same to Nigeria,” he said.

Sagay said the amount was a separate tranche from the earlier $480m forfeited to the US following a court judgment in August 2014.

He said that the stringent conditions for repatriation being given by the countries where the nation’s stolen wealth was stashed, contradicted the promises they made earlier.

“Out of the Abacha loot, for instance, Switzerland seized over $505m between 2004 and 2006,” he said.

“The UK recovered $2.7m from Alamieyeseigha’s account in London in 2005. Alamieyeseigha’s home and other real estate as at 2005 was estimated at over $15m.”

Abike Dabiri-Erewa called for an unconditional return of Nigeria’s stolen funds.

She said asset recovery was different from asset returning, and decried the uncooperative attitude of the countries where the stolen funds were being stashed.

“America has over $400m that have been officially recovered as stolen funds from Nigeria,” she said.

“But America is keeping the funds; they are telling us about technicalities. They are saying we recovered doesn’t mean we can return.

“We want every Nigerian in Diaspora, friends of Nigeria, to join this committee in demanding that every Nigeria’s stolen fund recovered in any part of the world should be returned to Nigeria.”

According to her, the person who steals is just as guilty as the person who keeps stolen funds.

“The person who steals is a criminal; the person who keeps known stolen funds is also liable,” she said.

“You can’t give us aid of $1bn and keep $1bn of funds you have recovered from Nigeria. So we will join the committee to embark on an advocacy with Nigerians outside the world to appeal to these nations to do everything possible to return what belongs to Nigeria.”

Source : TheCable

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WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ONLINE DATING

A healthy online relationship needs the same things all healthy relationships need: communication, trust and future plans.

Communication

We can’t say it enough: honest and open communication is necessary! An online relationship can be really dependent on honest communications, and there are tons of ways to have these communications. It can be through text messages, chats, FaceTime, Skype. Since you are not physically together, it is inportant you communicate more frequent. Tell each other everything. Fill each other up on your every day routine and activities. Gist alot, gossip if you can. Be best buddies. Eventually, you will get to a point that you can't do anything without telling ur partner. You will become so attached and inseparable.

Trust

Trust is a major key in a healthy relationship. When you are not around someone physically, feeling emotionally close and connected to them can be tough. If you find out that this lack of closeness is turning into mistrust, and that mistrust is making your partner (or you) want or try to control where you go, who you see, and what you do with your time, that is not okay. Regardless of whether you are physically close or far away, trust is still a decision that you and your partner can make, and it’s not healthy to continue a relationship where there is not trust. Also, it is important to make sure you never give your partner any reason to doubt or suspect you of doing something wrong. Because when trust is lost, it's almost impossible to get it back. And do not ever keep secrets from each other. Your partner should be your best friend

Future plans

One thing that is very essential in having a successful and strong long distance or online relationship is a well planned future for both of you. You should definitely plan or make plans on been together in future. Either the girl will have to sacrifice and move to work where her man is or he will sacrifice to move closer to her. This is very important because it gives both of you something positive to look forward to, and hope for a better future. When there is no plan for a future together, with time one of you or both of you will gradually start losing interest in the relationship.

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Yes is possible to find true love online

HAVE LAUNCHED MY DATING WEBSITE AND I WILL APPRECIATE IT IF ALL OF YOU SERCHING FOR LOVE SUBSCRIBE TO IT. JUST GO TO http://Imetmysoulmate.com . BELOW ARE MY REASONS FOR STARTING A DATING WEBSITE; MY FIRST REASON IS JUST SIMPLY PASSION, I'VE HAD A PASSION FOR MATCH MAKING PEOPLE SINCE I WAS YOUNG. AND I WAS GOOD AT IT TOO. I CAN BOAST OF 10 PEOPLE I MATCHED AND IT LED TO SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS AND TWO OF THE COUPLES ENDED UP GETTING MARRIED. IT GIVES ME JOY TO CONNECT TWO PEOLPLE WHO ARE SEARCHING FOR LOVE. I PRAY FOR WISDOM AND STRENGTH FROM GOD TO KEEP BRINGING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TOGETHER. MY SECOND REASON IS THAT NIGERIANS ARE FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO SUBSCRIBE TO FOREIGN DATING WEBSITES BECAUSE ALL NIGERIANS ARE TAGGED FRAUDSTERS. BUT I DO NOT AGREE THAT ALL NIGERIANS SHOULD BE DISCRIMINATED AGAINST JUST BECAUSE OF A FEW BAD ONES. THIS DISCRIMINATORY TREATMENT IS TOWARDS ALL AFRICANS, BUT ESPECIALLY WEST AFRICANS AND PARTICULARLY NIGERIANS. OF RECENT I WITNESSED SOMEONE VERY CLOSE TO ME TRYING FOR ALMOST 2 MONTHS TO PAY FOR MEMBERSHIP FEE FOR A FOREIGN DATING SITE WITHOUT SUCCESS, JUST BECAUSE SHE'S A NIGERIAN AND TAGGED A FRAUDSTER AUTOMATICALLY WITHOUT HER COMMITTING OR BREAKING ANY RULE ON THEIR SITES. THE THIRD REASON IS THAT; I WANT TO ENCOURAGE NIGERIANS WHO ARE LONELY OR IN STAGNANT RELATIONSHIPS OR SEARCHING FOR LOVE TO SEARCH FOR THEIR SOULMATES ON MY DATING SITE. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF SOCIAL MEDIA. YOUR PERFECT GIRL OR PERFECT MAN COULD JUST BE A CLICK AWAY. THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE MEET SERIOUS AND GENUINE PEOPLE ON DATING SITES ALL THE TIME AND END UP IN MARRIAGE. THERE ARE LOTS OF GOOD, KIND HEARTED, CHARMING AND LOVING PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE EITHER ALWAYS BUSY WITH WORK OR JUST DO NOT GO OUT MUCH AND THE ONLY PLACE THEY CAN FIND THEIR SOUL MATE IS ON A DATING SITE. THERE IS NO SHAME IN IT AT ALL, YOU ARE SIMPLY TOO BUSY OR HAVE NOT RAN INTO YOUR SOUL MATE SO WHY NOT CHECK ONLINE. FOURTH REASON IS; I THINK ONLINE DATING IS THE BEST. THROUGH CHATS U CAN GET TO KNOW SOMEBODY AND CHOOSE IF THEY ARE YOUR TYPE, TO MEET IN PERSON OR NOT. YOU CAN GET TO KNOW THEIR LIKES AND DISLIKES, GET TO KNOW THEIR LEVEL OF INTELLIGENCE THROUGH CHATS AND ALL THAT BEFORE YOU STRESS YOURSELF BY INVITNG THEM OVER OR GOING TO MEET THEM FOR A DRINK OR SO. SO, ALL THE REASONS ABOVE ARE MAINLY THE REASONS WHY I FINALLY LAUNCHED MY OWN DATING SITE. PLEASE SUPPORT ME BY SUBSCRIBING TO IT. AND PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU ENTER YOUR CORRECT DETAILS, IT IS FOR SERIOUS MINDED PEOPLE LOOKING FOR COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP THAT MIGHT LEAD TO MARRIAGE . BY THE WAY, ITS FREE TO BECOME A MEMBER, JUST SIMPLY CLICK ON THE LINK ABOVE AND SIGN UP. IF YOU HAVE ANY DIFFICULTIES SIGNING UP, YOU CAN CONTACT ME FOR CLARIFICATION OR CONTACT MY YOUNGER SISTER, MNENA SALEM OR IGWE CHIMA DOMINIC ON FACEBOOK. THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU MORE. MAY THE JOY OF THE LORD BE WITH ALL OF US. www.imetmysoulmate.com

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We’ll allocate oil blocks, pass PIB in 2017 says Kachikwu

Ibe Kachikwu, minister of state for petroleum resources, says the federal government will be allocating oil blocks and passing the petroleum industry bill in 2017.


Unveiling his goals, and that of the ministry of petroleum resources, for 2017, Kachikwu said Nigeria would exploit the relationship built by President Muhammadu Buhari in taking a road show to the UK and US.

“We are going to accelerate federal government revenues, look into areas where we could have made more money, so as to support the 2017 financing,” Kachikwu said.

“We are going to be seeking to attract investments and complete all the MOUs; the one in China, the one in India… we are looking to do a roadshow to the UK, we are looking to do a roadshow to the US with President Donald Trump coming in.

“We are looking quite frankly to draw on the relationship that the president has built over time. We are going to be conducting oil blocks allocations and marginal flow awards to try and raise money for the government.”

Kachikwu, who also spoke on the petroleum industry bill, said Nigeria’s refineries would be revamped to produced at a utilisation capacity of 60 percent.

“We need to start the revamping of the refineries. The president has given us a matching order on that. We still remain committed on our goal of 2018: reduce importation by 60 per cent and 2019, try and exit the importation of petroleum products substantially.

“Now, are going to continue to focus on downstream issues. Although we have liberalised, there are still some challenges. We are going to see how we work within the liberalisation infrastructure such that we are able to take away the low-hanging difficulties.

“We are also going to focus on the Niger delta. It’s been too long a lingering issue. We are going to be working with every aspect of the presidency to try and find solution to this.

“We are going to run at a rocket pace. We have so much to do. First, we are going to firm up our policies, be able to gazette all our oil and gas policies and then pass the Petroleum Industrial Bill, PIB.”

Kachikwu praised Nigeria’s “influential role” in stabilising oil prices, saying he expects oil to trade in the $60s for the better part of 2017.

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It's illegal for FRSC to "arrest" you for not having a fire extinguisher or "C" caution sign.

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