HOW I RUN THE #NO 1 DATING SITE IN AFRICA JESSICA BROWN KURAUN, FOUNDER IMETMYSOULMATE.COM (A City People Interview)

You could’ve mistaken her for a top celebrity actress if you were meeting her for the first time. This is because Mrs. Jessica T. Kuraun is a gorgeously beautiful woman who never fails to add a touch of glamour to her look whenever she steps out. Curvy and attractive looking for a mother of two, Jessica, apart from being a blogger and founder of Africa’s best matching site, imetmysoulmate.com, is actually also an actress, though she hasn’t been quite as active as she would’ve loved in the movie business owing to her already heavy schedules as a business woman, blogger, marriage counsellor, philanthropist and most importantly, as wife and mother to four adorable children (two of the four kids are adopted) In this interview with City People’s WALE LAWAL, the extremely humble and compassionate woman who also has an intense passion to support less privileged children in the society opens up on her desire to match make single people and the joy it gives her to see people she’s match-made happy together. She also shares with us her aspirations and the challenges that come with running Africa’s first and biggest dating site.

www.imetmysoulmate.com

What inspired your starting up a dating website in Nigeria, instead of a blog like most others?

I give God the glory for the idea. The idea just came to me that there was a vacuum that needed to be filled in Africa’s cyberspace. I noticed that a majority of us depended too much on Facebook, twitter, Instagram, Badoo and other social media to communicate our feelings, and all these media though are no doubt excellent, a medium for meeting genuine and unpretentious friends and potential spouses was still lacking in Nigeria and the entire world, so I came up with this dating site for genuine and sincere people who are not just up there for fun, but are interested in meeting great people who are prepared to settle down or long-term relationships. I also think that besides other things, I have had a lifetime interest in matchmaking. I have encouraged very great people to get married and all these marriages I helped in consummating have been extremely successful. So I thought I should take it to a whole new level and expand the mission to the rest of the world. The greatest soul winning in Christianity is marriage. God respects marriage, love and healthy relationships more than any other thing. Also, as a woman who is successfully married, I am an example to others who may be struggling out there to have successful relationships. So the dating website I have come up with is a place to be for Nigerians and other citizens of the world who are struggling with having genuine relationships.

As a graduate of Theatre Arts, why didn’t you go into acting or anything related to your training?

I am an award-winning dancer and I have been successful in choreography, but I am basically an artiste and even an artist and matchmaking is a great art. To match-make, you have to appeal to people’s sense of beauty and form, before they can even achieve that harmony that results to marriage. I am also into farming, business and political activism, but my primary passion is matchmaking. It gives me great joy to make great marriages, because the success of any society depends primarily on successful marriages and good homes. The violence and social ills you see in Nigeria and across the world are as a result of failed homes and families. If you choose the wrong husband or wife, you will end up with a broken home and in extension a broken society or a broken world. More than half of the social disorders in Nigeria for example, can be traced to bad marriages. So the greatest art form is to make good people who believe in each other, to help give us the healthy society we need to make Nigeria and the world, a better place. So the business of matchmaking and healthy relationships is the most important thing in any society. You can’t get resourceful and productive people to drive your economy when half of your population is a product of broken homes or relationships. Corruption which is a major reason why Nigeria is backward is also as a result of bad homes.

So how do you combine blogging and matchmaking, with your other businesses?

It is a big challenge, but I have reached a stage where some of my commitments are on autopilot, so I just enlist assistance from a couple of staff to help with some areas. I also have a very supportive husband, so it helps a lot in dealing with some of these commitments. Imetmysoulmate.com is a site to visit.

But considering that many Nigerians are already used to other dating sites, how would you get the desired traffic to your site, to really make a mark?

Our strategy is to attract many people who are tired of fake people on the other dating sites. It is not every subscriber that is looking for sex or flings. So many people out there, young and old, just want decent and sincere hook ups, and those are the people we are interested in. So our strength is that we are different from others. What you can’t find on other sites, you can find on our dating website. So this is a revolution I have started and I am extremely proud of. It’s also Africa’s alternative to western-style websites. Our aim is create a consciousness of African courtship system built on our values. So this is the dating website that Africa should subscribe to.

These days, there have been cases where fraudulent people who have gone on the internet to dupe people and in some cases take advantage of their desperate search for partners by callously using and dumping them. How do you screen people who come to you looking for partners to be sure they’re real and genuine?

Unlike other dating websites, we have introduced 2nd step verification where members are requested to upload their valid means of identification and other necessary details for security purposes. We also constantly remind members not to fall victim and also report anyone who tries to extort money from them by any means.

We also call members as they register to confirm they are who they claim to be.

Members however have the responsibility to report anyone who is suspected of fraudulent activities or who has defaulted and the person will be permanently deleted from the community. We are also increasing our strictness to members uploading their profile pictures.

It is surprising that membership to your dating site is free when you should be actually making a lot of money from it, what exactly is the reason for this?

The one and only reason to it is that I love match making people. I have real passion for it and it gives me joy to connect two compatible people who are single and willing to get into a serious relationship. It’s something I was doing even before setting up the site. And I am proud to say that I have matched-made many people and some are married now. So, I set up the dating site mainly as a means to help people. To do what I love the most. The joy I get from match making is worth more than money to me. But unfortunately, we need money to succeed in everything so I will have to put a little price on the site in the future, just to make enough money to continue paying my workers, the programmers and other staff helping me to make the dating site a huge success.

You have a fantastic husband and a beautiful family, what would you say has been the key behind your successful marriage? 

I will say the key to my successful marriage is friendship. The friendship between me and my husband is amazing. Marriages work better for couples that have a strong bond of friendship. We communicate a lot on everything. He’s my best friend and I am his best friend. We’ve been married for 10 years and the friendship is still waxing strong, we do not do anything without consulting each other. We support each other a lot too. I will say basically that we are inseparable, we are one. We do not bring third parties into our marriage. And I try my best to remain beautiful for him, love him and my kids the best way I can. But above all, God is the reason for my successful marriage. Without Him we can try anything in the world, go to marriage counseling and love each other deeply but it will not work. All couples need to take their marriage to God, let Him be the center of everything that goes on in their homes.

Our marriage is not completely perfect but we both work on making it better. We are aware that none of us is perfect and we need to work on our marriage daily to have the type of home we want.

Describe your husband in a few words

Kind hearted. He is my better half. He is a good, caring and generous man. He’s God fearing. A loving husband and a very good father. He’s my Prince charming and my best friend. He completes me.

DO WOMEN STILL GET THE RESPECT THEY DESERVE?

I miss old school. I miss the music, I miss the life style. But most especially, I miss the way we wooed women back then. Back in the day, men treated women with a lot of respect and handled them with tenderness. And I must add too, that women conducted themselves with a lot more decency than we see these days. Their dressing was way better, not the sort that usually leaves little to the imagination nowadays. What you get now from a lot of our ladies is nothing but fake 'phonee' that's usually well concealed in their often sweet sounding voice, making it not so easy to detect their flaws. But let me not digress, this article is not exactly about what our women are lacking these days, its about what we, the guys, are not doing right with the women! 

Back in the day, starting off a relationship with a woman was usually a fairly long, sometimes intricate but exciting process. There was no social media then, so we didn't have the luxury of going on facebook to chat with ladies we had never met before. Usually, you get to meet her through a mutual friend who would introduce you to each other. If you went straight to her, chances were that you could meet a brick wall because she doesn't know you and has no idea the sort of person you are. You had to be patient with her. You had to wait till she was comfortable with your personality enough to want to be your friend. Unfortunately, that's not what you'll find today. Guys now consider the average woman cheap, gullible and materialistic. 'Let your money speak for you,' they say. 'Give her a little treat and promise her the world and she'll be in your bed in a matter of days.' Little wonder they see women as some piece of property they acquired with their money and as such can treat and speak to them any way and any how they choose. This is not only wrong but barbaric as well. I mean, how can you claim to love a woman whom you literally treat no differently from the collection of furniture occupying some space in your home? You could get away with this for a some time, but after a while, there surely would be a backlash. Your woman will eventually learn to stand up for her herself and trust me, you won't like the transformation!

Another part of the old school way of relating to women that I think men can still find quite handy is the chivalrous nature of treating women back then. We opened car doors to let them in or out of the car and sent them cards and flowers sometimes just to remind them how much they still send our hearts skipping at the sound of their voice. There are men who still enjoy sharing the cooking with wifey and helping out with a bit of the chores. Yeah, I get it, you can't ever do that, right? Makes you look like a 'woman wrapper', abi? Too bad you feel that way, but the reality is that if you wish to have a truly blissful and enduring relationship, and enjoy your woman's unconditional love, then you must be willing to support her at all times. It is sad that in this day and age, some men still believe the woman's only responsibility is to take care of the house, take care of the kids and take care of them as well. Like, that's what she signed up for when she married you, right? While you sit down in your favourite chair in the house watching football on a hot Saturday afternoon, she is running all over the place cooking, cleaning, washing and ensuring your meal is served just the way you like it. You don't get up to support her. You don't even lift a finger to help. Yet, when she's all fagged out and aching all over after being on her feet all day, you still expect her to lie on her back for you in bed that same night while you bump and grind! Seriously? How would that work? In fact, if you ask me, one of the ways to get your woman looking forward to being in your arms in bed is when you spend time doing chores together. It builds a different kind of intimacy that is special and beautiful. But then, if you still think it's a sign of weakness to support your woman, then I can only feel sorry for you.

Finally, the one thing I find most unacceptable about the way some men treat their women is their abuse and absolute lack of respect for these women! Some men simply just don't know how to treat a woman like a lady. Sure, you can argue that some women can be quite irritable and obstinate to deal with, but as the man, you must show maturity and wisdom by handling them with some love and tenderness. Some men beat up their women in the house, yell at them in public, scold them openly before total strangers and shut them down should they wish to express their opinion over an issue. This is a shame and if truth be told, any man who does this shouldn't consider himself to be a man because REAL men don't disrespect their woman. Ask some of these guys why they do this and they might tell you women deserve to be so treated because a lot of them are no good. And if you ask where they got this from, you'll probably find out this is what they were led to believe by the irresponsible men around them while they were growing up. Here's news flash for you, guys, the truth is, there's probably no such thing as a no good woman, every no good woman was probably made no good by a no good man. Treat your woman with respect. Teach her with love and tenderness how to love you better and meet up with the standards you have set for her and for your self. When a woman is in love she'll be willing to do anything for her man, educating her on how to be your dream partner will certainly be the least of her worries. And the ladies, the good news is, there are still a few good men out there. Men who love and respect their women and treat them like the queen that they desire to be. Take your time, shine your eyes and search in the right places, and you shall find your own good man. Sometimes, you don't even have to go searching for him, he will find you, trust me...

Written by Wale Lawal

HOW STRONG ARE YOU?

 

They had been at the hospital for weeks, watching over their daughter who had been drifting in and out of coma. Nearly everyone had been to see them to offer both financial and emotional support. I couldn't see them before now because I'd also been financially lean and didn't think I'd be comfortable visiting and leaving them without offering any financial assistance, especially when I'm am well aware they've spent quite a fortune trying to keep their precious daughter alive. 

Vanessa had been ill for some time now. She'd been taken to a couple of hospitals before the parents were advised to bring her to where they were now. The extremely beautiful eight year old girl had some heart related problem and her condition had grown worse. I could scarcely recognize her. I noticed her eyes had sunk in a bit and her lips looked horribly dry. She was in some excruciating pain and you could see it in her eyes that the little girl was doing all she could to stay alive. 

"What exactly is the situation now?" I'd asked my friend quietly. His wife sat almost motionlessly by her daughter's bed, tears silently coursing down her face as she held Vanessa's hand in hers and prayed. 

"Wale, the doctor's say she's got a 50-50 chance of survival. They've operated on her, but yet..." my friend fought back the tears as he talked to me. 

"Be strong, Dave, she'll be okay," I comforted him. " Our God is not wicked, He won't let anything, not even a thousand demons, take her away from you!"

I was still talking to Dave when Vanessa stirred and opened her eyes. Her Mum promptly rose to her feet, her mouth hanging open as she groped for words to say. 

"Angel..my Angel.." she whispered to her daughter. Even she had lost so much weight, the anguish of the past weeks had begun to take its toll on her. 

"Mum..mummy...you're crying.." Vanessa said to her mum. You could feel the pain with which she talked. 'Why, mummy..why are you crying?" she'd asked. 

Quickly, the mother wiped her eyes clean with the back of her hand. "Its okay, sweetheart, I'm not crying anymore. But how are you, my love? How are you feeling now?"

Vanessa closed her eyes and adjusted her head slightly. "I told you, mum, I will..will be alright. I am not going to die, mummy, I promise I won't leave you and Daddy..."

It was such an emotional moment. Her mum and dad held themselves together and knelt over their daughter, throwing open the gates of their eyes as the flood of tears came tumbling down. I moved to a corner of the room and battled with my own emotions, it was desperately trying to get the better of me. 

As I left their presence, I couldn't help but salute the courage of this strong little girl. If as an eight year old she's got a heart this big and powerful, imagine what a strong character she'll be when she becomes an adult. Vanessa was staring at death in the face and telling the bastard he couldn't take her life, that she would live, no matter what it takes! Now, I'm wondering, how many of us can demonstrate the sort of courage and faith this kid has shown in the face of adversity? How many times have we given up on life just because we lost our job or because the child we so desperately seek has not come? How many times have you cried and begged God not to let you die just because you had a little bout of malaria? How many times have we thought the whole world was against us just because we didn't know where the next meal would come from? Even I am guilty of this. I've got massive challenges on my hands right now that's shattered me emotionally. 

But Vanessa has taught me to be strong. She's taught me to show courage even in the face of the most terrifying tribulation. She's fighting death with every fiber in her body, and you know what? She's winning! Now, you tell me, how strong are you in the face of adversity?    

Article written by Wale Lawal.

12 CELEBRITY MARRIAGES THAT SHOULD INSPIRE YOU

"For better or for best", that is the new wedding slogan for newly married couples. Its all good, no one prays for the 'worst', we are only saying you've gotto be very well prepared for it when and if it does rear its ugly head. Truth be told, marriage can be sweet and bitter, beautiful and ugly, but trust me, if you do well enough to get your foundation right, settle for a partner that adores you and respects you, and most importantly a partner with the fear of God, then you certainly will experience far more of marriage's sweetness and bliss than most couples would ever experience. On Teekay's blog, our hope and expectation for you is to experience unending joy and happiness in your marriage. This is why we are serving you these 12 celebrity marriages that we think will inspire you, especially if you're presently dealing with marital issues that appear to be getting the better of you. 

1.ZACK AND NGOZI ORJI:

For those who believe Nollywood marriages don't go the distance, please think again! This couple, who arguably boasts of one of nollywood's most enduring marriages, have been married for over two decades. Despite the challenges of both of them being involved in movies (Ngozi was formerly an actress) they have survived all the odds and still waxing strong. 

 2. SONI AND BETTY IRABOR:

An amazing couple. Everyone just seems to love them. When you get the chance to meet this two together, you'll be blown away by the simple fact that they make it all look so easy. Soni Irabor is a veteran broadcaster and the CEO of Inspiration FM while Betty is an author and the publisher of Genevieve magazine. Through thick and thin, Betty and Soni have stuck together for over two decades. 

3. PRINCE AND MERCY JOHNSON OKOJIE:

Not many gave this couple a chance. At the time they got married, they were engulfed in a fiery controversy that very nearly consumed the wedding even before it took off. A woman had appeared from the blues weeks to their wedding claiming she was Prince's legal wife whom he married and abandoned in Europe with his kids. As the controversy raged on and spread like wild fire, the two stuck together like bees to honey, with Prince insisting his marriage to the lady was dead and buried yeas back, long before he met Mercy. Today, they are both blessed with three lovely kids.

4.DAKORE AND OLUMIDE AKANDE:

Before she got married, she was everyone's sweet little darling.She still is. Dakore was the sweet and pretty petite t.v. gal that movie lovers just couldn't get enough of. They met each other several years ago in the U,S, and have gone on to become the envy of their peers. At the initial stage of their marriage, many feared that getting married into the intimidating Akande dynasty might put Dakore under severe pressure and may not be able to cope. Bu she has since gone on to prove many wrong, and she's got adorable kids to show for it!

5. ITUAH AND IBIDUN IGHODALO:

Another amazing couple who have broken all barriers and defied all the odds. Pastor Ighodalo and incredibly beautiful wife, Ibidun, who was a former Lux beauty queen, have been married for over a decade now. In a society where bearing offsprings is seen as the primary essence of marriage, Ibidun and her husband have stuck together, keeping faith and trusting God to fill their home with the cry of babies when it is His time.Pastor Ituah Ighodalo is the Senior Pastor at Trinity Christian Centre. 

6.FELA AND TARA DUROTOYE:

Simply charming couple. They certainly complement each other. Fela Durotoye is one of the most sought after motivational speakers in the land today while his wife, Tara, is the smart,and hugely popular make-up artist behind the brand known as House of Tara International. The beauty expert and mother of three is into a bit of counselling for women and marriage as well. She will be the first to tell you that no marriage is perfect but the she and her husband have been able to completely trust each other. 

7. ISAAC AND NNEKA MOSES:

They both met on a movie set in 1996 and have never looked back ever since. Even when the kids failed to come several years after their marriage, they stood by each other and believed in each other. In truth, many were anxiously waiting to read about their separation in the papers, believing it was only a matter of time that the strain of childlessness in the marriage will tear them apart. But it never happened.Today, not only have the kids come, they have also been able to build together a brand name that will surely feed them and their children's children for a long time to come.

8. RICHARD AND JUMOBI MOFE DAMIJO:

He was every woman's heart-throb. A brilliant actor and articulate speaker. When he got married to the equally desirable t.v. gal, Jumobi, at a time when RMD was believed to be dating several other women, many didn't think the marriage could go past the first year before falling apart. Even years after wedding, all manner of stories hinting that the marriage was troubled kept coming up. But they were able to weather the storms together. Between them they have five children.

9. IRETIOLA AND PATRICK DOYLE:

Another couple you can't help but love. They have been married for over two decades and have about six children between them to  care for. Being practitioners of the media industry, their understanding of each other is almost uncanny. Despite their individual successes as on screen personalities, they have remained committed to each other and to their marriage. 

10.OLU AND JOKE JACOBS:

Many would tongue lash us if this two don't make this list. And indeed, this write-up would be incomplete without them on it. Both respected veteran actors who have become role models to younger ones, particularly in the industry, never fail to laugh and enjoy each other's company whenever they're attending public functions together. Despite that they've been married for over two decades, they still cut the picture of young lovers who are heads over heels in love with each other. 

11. ANNIE IDIBIA AND TUFACE:

Theirs would make a perfect love story. A classic fairy tale.and money  They first met several years ago when Tuface was still hustling and jumping buses to perform at shows. She was young and in love. Over night, humongous success came for Tuface and she lost him to the hordes of women who flocked around him. He ended up having kids from a couple of these women. She cried, walked away but just could never stay away from him. Eventually, Tubaba realized Annie was the real deal and chose her to be his African Queen. They got married few years ago and have two kids between them. And they are waxing stronger with each passing day. 

12. OMOTOLA JALADE AND MATHEW EKEINDE:

Another testament to the fact that actresses can indeed have successful marriages.Take it or leave it, Omotola is unarguably Nigeria's biggest movie star. Blessed with an incredibly sexy figure and a really pretty face despite being a mother of four, she is also blessed with an amazing husband too. Mathew Ekeinde, a senior pilot with Arik Air has been a remarkable husband to his super star actress. He is always by her side supporting her all the way on every project she's embarked on. They have a ten years age difference between them but you will hardly notice. They seem like buddies together. You can tell how well they have raised their four kids too, they are all very well mannered and cultured children.

What will you do if on your wedding night you discover your man CAN'T DO?

Please comment your opinion.

SIX WAYS TO REFRESH YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

As people, we evolve, and so should our relationship/marriage. The same way we try to re-inventt ourselves, our looks and appearances, so should we reinvent our relationships, not only to keep things fresh, but also to grow together with our spouse. Are you wondering if your relationship or marriage is in need of some re-invention? Here are a few things you and your 'honey' can do to put things right again. 

1. TRY SOMETHING NEW: You keep doing the same routine, the conversations are plain and sometimes flat, you can't even remember the last time you guys did something romantic. This is a clear signal that boredom has set into your relationship and you are left with no other alternative than to go for something exciting and romantic. Try adding something new, for example, go on dates with adventure, e.g. sight seeing, traveling. Sharing new experience is a sure way to building new connections with your spouse and put life back into a boring marriage or relationship. 

2. SPONTANEOUS SEX: Sometimes, it can get to a point in your marriage when sex begins to feel like chore. This tends to happen when settling into marriage, we enter into it with sex as top priority and then over time, it gets pushed further and further down the to-do-list. Actually, the fact that its even on your to-do-list is an issue. Strange as it sounds, some couples actually plan when to have sex because they're possibly both too immersed in their careers and  work. Truth is, this can't work for everyone. And surely, you're taking the excitement out of sex when you plan it in advance. Planned sex automatically becomes boring sex. Create room for sexual intimacy and be more spontaneous. Once you find you're both alone in the house, get flirty with each other, and you don't have to end up in the bedroom, the living room, the bathroom, are all yours for the taking!

3. CREATE SPECIAL TIME FOR BOTH OF YOU: When you start operating as individuals under the same roof rather than a a couple, then its time for an intimacy face lift. Having your own Me-time is important, but togetherness is part of being in a relationship. Get to know your partner again. Take 10-15 minutes each day to unplug from the world and focus on one another. Sit down and chat or go for a walk. You could also decide to spend that time in side your bedroom, watching your favourite movie or program, cuddled up in each other's arms. 

4. SERVE HIM HIS FAVOURITE MEAL: When was the last time you attempted to cook him his favourite meal? You probably have not done so in a long time perhaps because the meal requires quite a bit of effort to prepare. Ask yourself why you're not prompted to go out of your way for your man anymore? Remember back then when you went out of your way to show him your culinary skills just to make him feel special? Its time you start making him feel special again. 

5. WHERE IS YOUR LINGERIE?: Your lace G-strings have been hidden for so long, you have even forgotten they were there. The sexiest you get at night for your man is wearing an over sized t-shirt. Reach down and bring out your lingeries, it's time to get sexy again. 

6. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR LADY PARTS: Your lady parts seem to be in need of some landscaping. You don't trim the hedges or keep a clean shave anymore because you're no longer worried about bedroom impressions. If he loves you, he shouldn't bother about the jungle down there, right? Yes, but, no. Keeping things manicured shows him you're still trying to look sexy for him. Appearances aren't everything, but physical attraction does matter. 

TIWA SAVAGE AND TEEBILLZ POSSIBLE REUNION, CAN THEY GET IT RIGHT THIS TIME?

The news has been filtering in for some time now. And although neither of the two parties involved have officially admitted nor deny it yet, but all the tell tales are there to suggest that naija pop diva, Tiwa Savage and her estranged husband, Tunji Balogun, aka Teebillz, may be coming back together as husband and wife again. On different occasions, the once celebrated showbiz couple have been seen hanging out together, but always in the company of their son. Only last Sunday, they were pictured together in church with their only, Jamil. It will be recalled that the two lovebirds caused quite a commotion when it was announced they had parted ways. They broke the hearts of many of their fans who just couldn't imagine the couple separated. And to add fuel to the flame, they began trading accusations and counter accusations. Things got really messy when Teebillz reeled out a long list of personalities he claimed had slept with his wife. Tiwa, of course denied the allegations and reeled out too a number of her ex husband's escapades with women, plus his passion for drugs and reckless spending, which, sadly included stealing from her. Then there was also the suicide drama part by Teebillz (only God knows what he was thinking at the time) The guy felt he couldn't take the heat anymore and decided to bring the pain he was feeling inside to an end. Thankfully, he was stopped just in time from doing the unthinkable. All of this happened last year, fast forward to April 2017 , the reconciliation cards seem pretty well on the table, but the big question is, can they get it right this time? 

Yes, they can. And seriously, the prayer any well meaning individual should pray for them at this time is that they should get it right. Right here, on Teekay's blog, that's also our fervent prayer for them. But the truth is, its not going to be easy. They've got to handle the process the right way. First and foremost, Tiwa and hubby must be sure they're getting back together again because they genuinely want to, and not because families or the society pressured them into getting back together again. This is very key to the success of their reunion. Secondly, they must seek professional help and counselling. An expert will also help them pull through the tricky process of reconciliation. Thirdly, they must be ready to let go of all that happened in the past, not even a shred of some of the hurtful things they said about each other must remain in their memories. Every single hurtful word must be deleted. Fourthly, they must be prepared to completely and truthfully forgive each other. It is on this premise that the success or otherwise of the reunion will be determined. There must be total forgiveness. Finally, they must renew their vows, privately this time. They must tell themselves all over-again how much they mean to each other and how determined they are to stand by each other in sickness and in health and even in the face of the fiercest 'media controversy'. And one more thing, they must keep their little conflicts away from the public. A word of advice: the moment your partner upsets you, please stay away from social media until you have totally purged yourself of the rage brewing inside you. You don't want to repeat last year's drama all over again, do you? 

Yes, they can get it right this time, but they must be ready to stay true to each other. They must be willing to put their egos aside and throw everything they've got into the marriage, and then let God take care of the rest. Here's wishing both of them the very best. 

What do you think? Should they give their marriage a second shot? Will they get it right this time? Do let us hear from you.