10 STEPS TO REIGNITE THE LOST SPARK IN YOUR MARRIAGE (PART 1)

The spark in your love life may be missing, but it's definitely not gone for good. All of us have a choice, and we can bring that magical spark back into love if we choose to. But you need to remember that something that's been missing for a while would take a considerable amount of time to come back again.

Bringing the spark back into your marriage can be a lot of fun, and it can make both of you feel like little kids again, but it does take some time and patience. But I can assure you, with every step along the way, you'll feel closer and more alive than ever before!

Follow these 10 steps, one step at a time, starting from the first all the way to the tenth. And by the time you get to the last step, you won't just rekindle the spark in your romance, both of you would feel completely infatuated by each other, all over again!

#1

HOW TO COPE WITH AN UNFORGIVING SPOUSE

Coping with a partner that always reminds you or recalls every wrong you did in the past can be seriously frustrating, especially when you have asked for forgiveness repeatedly and the other refuses to bulge. Here are some pointers to help you deal with such

1. Have a positive approach: To be able to live with an unforgiving spouse, you have to

LET GO OF YOUR EX, SO YOU CAN BE HAPPY.

Do not ever think you have to continue calling your ex, or showing up at the places they go to or are likely to go to for them to see you and miss you. That hardly works. You need to completely cut them off, no calls what so ever. They will not miss you if you keep showing up where they are and acting desperate. Do not ever

(PARENTING 2) HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY NO TO YOUR CHILDREN!

Modern life is not only competitive but also stressful in many aspects. Children have to gradually adapt themselves to this demanding environment at some point of time. This is exactly why parents need to train their young ones accordingly. Children must be taught to take a `no', not only from parents but also friends, teachers, neighbours and even strangers.

 

Discipline begins at home

Some parents tend to pamper children unreasonably. Abundance of anything, ranging from toys, games, sweets and chocolates, spoils children at a very young age. In fact, research has shown that

(Parenting 1) How to Instil Positive Values In Your Child

One of the most important things your child can do is to internalize the values they will live by. For moms, dads, and other parenting adults, this process can be both rewarding and terrifying. On the one hand, we see children expressing their honesty, compassion, and other positive values that we would hope to pass on to them. On the other hand, they often also do things that don't reflect our values—or even contradict our deeply held values. Other influences in their lives—peers, television, social media, other adults—can influence them to adopt values and perspectives that we may not share. We may feel like

WHERE DO YOU STAND IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

When there are issues in a relationship, both partners have to be willing to work on resolving these issues. It can't be done by only one partner. Most times people often take for granted the efforts their partners make or sacrifice so as to have a stable and healthy relationship. Its all about hard work, conscious efforts, sacrifice, compromises etc. One person can't bear the brunt of all issues in a relationship, the two of you are in it together. Let me stress it here that, You have to be WILLING and ABLE to work for it. 

There is a very big difference between

Men's and Women's Sexuality

There has been controversies about the sexual prowess of a man and woman. Most times people term the males as dominant and the females as receptive. Where do you stand? For me I will give a few points, then you decide where you stand. Most women have receptive sexual desires. Research has proven that for most women, their desires are triggered by thoughts and emotions which may arise during sexual excitement and not before. For most men their desires are triggered by the physical attractiveness of the woman before sexual excitement. It is worthy of note for men to understand this fact about women(their wives, partner etc). If a husband becomes upset because he wants his wife to pursue him sexually, and he thinks she's not interested in sex because

Advice on How to Save a Failing Marriage

Think back to when you met, and eventually married, the love of your life. You vowed your unconditional love for each other and formed an eternal bond, for better or worse and until death do you part. But somewhere, somehow, things hit a rough patch. Did you and your partner begin to bicker over money? Were pressures in the workplace weighing down on both of you? Have you grown apart as people?

Maybe the frustration you are feeling over these, or any other issues that have reared their ugly heads, has made it pretty difficult for you to recall

WHY AND HOW EVERY FATHER WITH TEENAGE DAUGHTERS MUST BE RESPONSIBLE AND PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR GIRLS

It has become a general notion that daughters are usually closer to their dads than they are to their mothers. Well, we may not wish to contest this belief, but we know that, indeed, it can also be said that a lot of girls are way closer to their mothers than they are to their dads largely because mothers are the ones who are often always available for the kids when fathers are out at work. Again, our intent isn't to contest any widely accepted notion but to look at the situation critically and highlight its benefits.Personally, I have come to understand that some daughters are close to their dads, not necessarily because the father has been upright in his duties as a father, but possibly because he simply indulges her in some excesses that her mother would not allow. For instance, if a father who perpetually cheats on his wife and quarrels endlessly with her over this issue constantly approves of his seventeen year old daughter to go out partying with her friends and boys whenever she requests and even supplies her 'T-fare', he will always be liked and preferred by such daughter over the mum who would not approve of such frivolities. Now, would you say such father has been an upright and effective father? So, yes, it is good for our daughters to like us a great deal as fathers, but it is also important that it's for the right reasons. The following are some of the reasons and ways we must bring up our teenage girl child and help her become a confident, decent, intelligent and responsible young lady. 

SHOW LOVE: This is very important to the teenage girl. This is not the old school days when our fathers barely talked and share stuffs with the girl child except with the boys. Times have since changed. As a father, you must constantly engage your teenage daughter, get to know her friends, get to understand how she relates to the opposite sex and how she perceives them. Buy her gifts and get her lovely dresses she adores. And listen to her needs. When you can't meet some of her financial needs explain to her why she has to give you some time. Don't snap at her when you can't meet up with her needs, otherwise, some smart guy could realize her lack and take advantage of her.

LET HER KNOW SHE'S BEAUTIFUL: As a father, you must always constantly remind your daughters how beautiful they are. And this goes for their mother as well. This boosts their self esteem and confidence. If you don't tell you daughter how pretty she is and she has to go outside to to hear this, then you can be sure if she gets to hear this from a male, then it could come at a cost. But if she's used to daddy telling her she's the cutest daughter he's ever seen, and then some guy accosts her on the road and tells her she's beautiful, she's most likely to just shrug it off, after all, daddy tells her so everyday.

REMIND HER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE AND CARE FORE HER: This is also very important. When our daughters get to that age when they become curious about a lot of things, especially about matters of the heart, (usually starts from the age of 14) they become vulnerable. When they get to the age of fifteen, sixteen and seventeen, they start hoping to be loved and adored in a special way. While we acknowledge that it can be quite a task guarding our girls from these things, it also helps in a lot of ways if she gets a lot of love from home, and is reminded repeatedly by both mum and dad how much they love her. That way, when a guy with indecent intentions comes along and tells her he loves her, she would not at the very least be blown completely away because, thankfully, he won't be the first man to tell her so, daddy tells her same thing all the time!      

BE A RESPONSIBLE FATHER: It has often been said that a girl's first 'boyfriend' is usually her father. What this means is that when a girl is maturing and becoming fully aware of her natural endowments and her capabilities as a young lady, almost unconsciously, she begins to picture and envision the kind of guy she would love to date or marry through how she perceives her father. In other words, if she sees in her father a perfect gentleman who loves and adores her mother, she would look out for such traits in her partner or husband to be. If her father is well educated, carries himself confidently and is a dashing looking man who dresses extremely well, she would want that in her man. Indeed, her father automatically becomes her mirror and her lens through which sees the man of her dreams. So, in the same vein, if her father's a drunk, a cheat and irresponsible man, the danger is that, she might know no better and believe that is the norm with with men. She could also very well end up in the arms of another idiot and be condemned to remain miserable in marriage for the rest of her days. 

GIVE HER TREATS: When you can afford it, take your teenage daughters out and give them treats. But, please hold on a minute, please don't take them to those places she considers 'wack' and 'old school', take her to places that would excite her. If you're are at a loss as to where to take her, ask her, you'll be surprised at the sort of exquisite names your girl will come up with. She probably only hears the names on teevee or from a couple of her friends who've been there before, it would delight her to no end if daddy takes her there.And this time, it has to be just you and your girl. No mummy, no Junior, just you and your pretty little Princess! Now, how would some irresponsible guy with selfish intentions use such places you have taken her to entice her? Get the point? 

REGULAR PRIVATE TALKS: Make out time to often discuss with your teenage daughter. Let her know the way she sees life isn't quite the way it is. If you can, lecture her on boys and sex, hearing it from you, her best dad in the world, would make a ;lot more impact on her. Teach her moral values and why its important she conducts herself with decency and stay 100 percent focused on her studies rather than on frivolities. More importantly, along with your wife, teach her the ways of God and why she must at all times let the fear of the Almighty be upper most in her mind, especially when she moves to the higher institution where you can't monitor her. Create a fantastic relationship with your daughter where she can come freely to you whenever she has any problem bothering her mind.

Written by Wale Lawal. 

HOW KIDS OF TROUBLED MARRIAGES SUFFER EMOTIONALLY: A TEACHER'S STORY

I watched him quietly from where she sat. I could tell something was bothering him yet again. He was simply not the bright and cheerful boy he used to be. Usually, T-Boy is just nine years old, but he's the live wire of the class, he's the entertainer, always singing and dancing whenever its play time. Beyond these, he's also an exceedingly gifted boy. He's smarter than his age and extremely sensitive too. He comes tops of the class and is heads and shoulders above his peers. But all of that has started to change lately. T-Boy's grades have been taking a huge drop, his performances in recent tests have been extremely disturbing. The little boy has become a shadow of his former self, you could see the sadness in his eyes. He now cuts a withdrawn and lonely figure among his peers. Without a doubt, something was wrong with the young man and as his teacher, I knew I had to find out what the problem was. That was also part of my responsibility. Two weeks ago, I'd called him aside and away from his peers when I first noticed these changes.

"T-Boy, you look very dull and unhappy", I'd begun, trying to put a little smile on my face as I talked to him. "Are you okay? Is there a problem?"

T-Boy didn't say anything, he merely looked away from

TIPS FOR SINGLE LADIES LOOKING TO SETTLE DOWN: Men can read too.

The other time I advised guys who are still single and looking to settle down. Today I want to advice single ladies. Below are things you should take into consideration when you are thinking of settling down as a lady.

(1) Settle down with someone you love: Love should be your number one reason for settling down with a man. Do not settle down with a man mainly because he's rich. Because he's the person you will spend the rest of your life with, under the same roof. So if there is no love then you will find yourself getting bored with the marriage, or harbouring thoughts of cheating on your husband. It is always better for the man to love his wife more than she loves him because