It is quite difficult to make a decision about who to settle down with. Staying married and happy is difficult but it's even more difficult and almost impossible if you marry the wrong person, marrying the wrong person can make you miserably for the rest of your life, so it's important to make a good decision. Bellow are some points that I think can help you make a good choice.
- Make sure it's someone you love. This is the most important decision when settling down, do not settle down with someone you don't love. You have to really love who you want to marry. Because there are a lot of challenges in marriage and most times, true love is the only thing that can keep you together to the end.
- Make sure it's someone you have a connection with. Someone you can easily strike a conversation with. So that you can always have things to talk about and not get bored with each other.
- Find someone you have similar interests with. It could be that you both love to travel or you both love to watch movies or you both love to have fun and take risks or you are both devoted Christians who love to always be in God's presence e.t.c. What ever it is, just make sure you have some things in common.
- Do not settle for less than what you want or deserve just because you are in a hurry to get married. This happens mostly with ladies, and a few guys too, they rush into marriage just because they are afraid of ending up single forever or they are afraid they may not meet someone else. But I think it's better to marry someone you feel comfortable and proud of, because you are going to spend the rest of your life with this person than hurrying to marry and ending up with the wrong person. If it's someone you don't like then you will be miserable all your life, wishing that you should had been patient a little longer.
- Do not marry someone you notice bad behaviours in, with the intention that they will change when you are married. If they do not change or behave nice while you are just dating, then they will hardly change while you are already married.
- Marry someone you are physically attracted to. Physical attraction is important because you need to be attracted to your partner as much as you love them, because this can in a way help to control your urge to cheat on your spouse or be turned off by them. Also, It will keep your sex life interesting and this is good for your marriage.
- Marry someone you can always be yourself with. Do not marry someone you have to pretend when around them so as to please them. Marry someone you can be very free with, joke and play with. Someone who can let you be you.
- Marry someone you trust, someone you can confide in, someone that supports you, someone that completes you and encourages you.
- Do not marry someone just because you were told by your parents or pastor to marry them. You can consider their opinion but it should also be what you want and who you think is good for you.
- Marry someone that loves you as much as you love them.
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