Some couples seem to have that extra something that makes their marriage work a great deal. But exactly what are those secrets of happily married couples? What do they do that others don't? How have they been able to weather marital storms? Take a close look at these ten things listed below, are they a part of your marriage? Are they prominent in your marriage bible?
1. GO TO BED TOGETHER: Going to bed at the same time almost all of the time shows that you want to experience the closeness that can only be found in bed. My friend says she found that some of their best conversations occur with her head on her husband's shoulder lying in bed. While simply lying down together in bed, they have taken some of the most important decisions in their marriage
2. HAVE SHARED INTERESTS: Sharing your interest and ideas with your life partner is one of the constant activities of happy couples. Stay together and find things that you both enjoy doing. Take out time from your busy schedules and indulge in those things that you both enjoy doing together..Could be going to the cinemas, picnics, playing indoor games, it could even be worshipping and praising God together.
3. HOLD HANDS: Holding hands says one thing clearly, that you're still in love. That you cherish just touching your partner and need that connection whether you're walking through a crowded place or just sitting on the couch builds a stronger bond. Inside the house, touch each other playfully. While she's preparing your favourite egusi soup, sneak into the kitchen and hold her from behind. When he's busy going through the dailies, lean close and peck him on the side of the face. These little things create great magic.
4. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE: Remaining positive is one of the important secrets of happy married couples. Everyone has something that they dislike about their spouse, whether its the way he bites his finger nails or that she spends too much money on clothes. But couples that are happy focus more on the positive things about their spouse than the negative. They look not at the few things their spouse do wrong, but at all of the things they do right.
5. FORGIVE: One of the hardest things to do is to forgive. But couples who desire to a happy marriage must learn to quickly forgive each other freely. Not only do they forgive each other, they also do not bring up past mistakes. Once the misdeed is forgiven, it is also forgotten.
6. SAY, "I LOVE YOU": "I love you is a very important sentence happy married couples like to tell each other. When you say the words, you are reminding your spouse, and reaffirming yourself of the love that you feel. Sometimes, when there's a bit of tension between both of you, a simple, ' I love you" will do the trick and douse the tension.
7. COMMUNICATE: Communicate to stay connected to your spouse. Communication is a secret to remain a happily married couples for decades. Couples who can talk to each other stay together forever. Good communication can make couples share the good things and discuss problems without getting angry. It also means that you probably talk to each other through out the day. Always make out time to talk during the day, even if its through a romantic line of sms.
8. COMPROMISE: Sometimes, you will disagree and that's when compromise comes into play. If both spouses learn to succumb, agree to respect each other's opinions and ideologies, then both will surely be happy. When you agree to reach a compromise on some issue with your partner, it is not a sign of weakness, rather, it is a sign of maturity and affection for your spouse.
9. SHARE AFFECTION: This is very important. Giving and showing affection through hugs, kisses and touching are important. It creates a bond and keeps the romantic flame burning. Most couples tent to take this for granted, please don't, sometimes, they have more effect on the marriage than actual sex.
10. SHOW RESPECT: Each spouse needs to respect the other and their desires. Mutual respect means that consideration is given to the others feelings. When you show respect to each other, then those little quarrels will come few and far between.
Written by my colleague Wale Lawal
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