14 CARDINAL LAWS OF MARRIAGE EVERY MAN MUST KEEP

The marriage institution, in recent times, appears to be under some form of siege. Homes are being torn apart daily while divorce rates are shooting high by the minute. The devil, if we must blame him like we do all the time, appears to be having a walk in the park, making a mockery of our marital vows and rocking the institution to its very foundation. While we do not ascribe blames to any party, we indeed believe that, often times, both the man and woman are responsible for this unfortunate situation. But first, we seek to address the man through this article, we will address the woman in subsequent articles (We have actually done a whole lot of that on this blog)  

1. If you don't understand her place you will never maximize her grace. Every man must understand the significance of his wife in his home and in his life. This is the only way her grace in your life can blossom.

2. She is not a 'weak helper', her vessel is what is weaker, compared to yours, not her content. The average woman is endowed with innate qualities and strength, you will be surprised the amount of support she can give should the going gets rough. 

3. She is the only one equipped with the level of patience, care and caution needed to hold another life for 9 months! You must cherish her, because she's the only one that can help you carry and produce the bone of your bones and the flesh of your flesh, the one you shall proudly call, 'my child.' 

4.'It is not good that man be alone,' I didn't say so, God did. If you think she's discardable, you take the 'not good life' and see how you can carry on without her in your life. You must treasure her, you don't want to find out how valuable she really is until you lose her. 

5. Your value for her is not out of pity, you NEED her. You are the one that God said needed help, not her! Treat her kindly and show her love and she will continue to support you and stand by you through thick and thin. 

6. Haven't you realized in all your arrogance that there are things in life that you can't stand that she gladly does? This means she has something you don't have - tolerance. You can learn a great deal of that from her. 

7. The value you place on your wife is the value you place on God. You can't dishonour God's gift and honour Him. Honour your wife at all times and she will give you the kind of joy you will never find anywhere else. 

8. God Himself sent you this help and He is watching how you treat her. Don't mess up your wife because you want to feel like a man! Treat her like an equal, not your slave. Make her happy all the time and you will see how God will make you happy too. 

9. Stop complaining about her like you were blind when you chose her. Invest in her and improve her if she needs it. Do so with love and tenderness, you'll be amazed at the transformation you'll get. 

10. Most times, she is ineffective because you haven't made your vision very clear or you haven't let her express herself . Encourage her to express her mind and let her key into your vision, you will be surprised how effective she can be. 

11.Her failure is your failure because you're her teacher, leader and defender! Never live in excuse about this. Take responsibility for what she becomes under your watch, she can only be what she wants to be when she's got your back. 

12.Pride is when you do not see value in your wife. It means you question God's sense of sending her as help and that's pure arrogance! Truth is, people will only value and respect your wife when they see the enormous value and respect you accord her as well. 

13. How can you say you love a God you cannot see when you don't even love a wife we all can see? Need we say more? Love her completely, love her absolutely, and you will be the better for it. 

14.Bottom line...treat her in line with God's mandate! And every other thing shall be added unto you.