YOU FEAR YOUR MAN IS CHEATING ON YOU? HERE ARE 8 SIGNS THAT CONFIRM SO

The other day, a woman mailed me and asked for a list of signs that would "Tell me he's cheating on me." This lady had been having a very uneasy feeling about her husband and she felt she needed a concrete list to either confirm her suspicion or tell her she's only been unnecessarily apprehensive over nothing. We'll serve you too the list I gave her, but I must warn you that if you don't see behaviours that match that of your man whom you also suspect is cheating, it doesn't mean you're wrong. Every man behaves differently and reacts differently to these situation. It is entirely up to you to open your eyes and follow up on your suspicions without being obvious about it until you reach a conclusive end. But until you do so, please do not behave irrationally or pick up baseless fights with your man because you could also be wrong! 

1. HE SUDDENLY STARTS WORRYING ABOUT HIS LOOKS: Often when men become comfortable in a relationship. they lay off trying so hard to look great for their partner. You're often comfortable enough for both of you to be in old casual clothes, sometimes he leaves his hair over full until you practically drag him to the salon. He even barely notices sometimes when his shirt and trousers just don't match. But now, he notices everything! He even spends a great deal of time in front of the mirror admiring himself and his fabulous new jacket. Or he starts buying trendier or younger looking clothes and suddenly begins to attempt to lose weight, then its time to shine your eyes and keep a close eye on Oga, something fishy might be going on.

2. HE'S ATTENTIVE TO HIS CAR:The guy who used to have toys or left overs of family picnics littering his car suddenly wants it very clean. He doesn't want any signs pointing back to you and giving him away as married or that he's even a family man. And he's taking interest in his car because he wants to impress her. Men will often want to keep their car extra clean inside and outside when they're cheating because the clean, sharp looking car is part of the package to impress the babe and also keeping it clean inside helps to get rid of evidence of her when you're around and evidence you when she's around. 

3. SECRECY ABOUT HIS BODY: Many women have confided in me that when their boyfriends or husbands were cheating, they would stop leaving the bathroom door open. Same thing when they're dressing up, they keep the door shut because they probably have marks on their bodies from their previous sexual encounters with the other woman such as finger nail scratches on their chests and their backs they don't want you to see. 

4. HE STARTS PUTTING HIS PHONE ON VIBRATE OR HE TURNS IT OFF: Before now, when he had nothing to hide, not only would your man leave his phone on, he will also leave it with you or careless around you. But today, you barely catch glimpses of his phone. It's always safely tucked away in his pocket or well away from your reach. Or, worse still, he even turns it off or puts it on vibrate. This way, he can excuse himself and go to somewhere private to pick his calls or read and respond to his messages. 

5. HE STARTS TEXTING WITH MORE FREQUENCY: Many men resist texting, especially if it has to be done frequently. They simply prefer to pick up the phone and call to express themselves than go through the mental rigours of typing messages to their new catch. It is a huge waste of time. But because he doesn't want you to hear what he has to say to the other woman, he has no choice but to text instead, thinking he can just delete them later. 

6. HE'S PICKING FIGHTS WITH YOU: Often times, men who are cheating  will try to justify it by drawing their attention, and yours too, to your  faults. To that end, he will start to pick fights with you. or criticize you about being too clingy, needy or overbearing. He may use these things as an excuse to stay away more from home or make up excuses about needing to work late. 

7. MAKING UP SEEMINGLY LITTLE LIES: Your man could tell you that he and so and so went out for so and so's birthday. But when you see so and so's wife, you learn there was no birthday. He'd actually come up that lie just so he could go out without you to spend quality time with his new love. And once these little lies begin to happen more frequently, then you know there is trouble. 

8. HE NOW DOES MORE PRIVATE OUTINGS: If suddenly your man begins to dress up, look good and go out on outings alone and very frequently, leaving you out of his hang outs, then he's most probably up to something. Usually, he would insist you come along even if you don't know the friends he plans to hang out with, but these days, he doesn't insist you come along, he just tells you he's hanging out with the boys and off he goes. But you can tell from the way her's taken his time to look good he's not meeting with the boys, he's running off to catch a date with his new mistress.

By my colleague Wale Lawal